“If the HEART relationship is lost, we have lost the entire war.”
Friday, May 02, 2008 1:47 AMI received the following comment in an email from a pastor today:
“I am a father of six and a grandfather of three. I love my children deeply and wanted them to grow in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. But after seeing the end result of my ‘discipline’ in them and after speaking with them honestly of my concerns, and hearing thier responses, as well as years of dealing with hundreds of others (I am a family counselor and pastor) I see that most of our ‘discipline’ has been legalistic, harsh, and worst of all, energized by an unhealthy fear of God’s judgement. (If I don’t beat the hell out of them they will go to hell). But PERFECT LOVE CASTS OUT FEAR. THERE IS NO FEAR IN LOVE. That doesn’t mean there are no times when some degree of strong correction may be needed, but if the HEART relationship is lost in the process we have lost the entire war.”
Clay McLean
Also from Pastor McLean,
“We have totally misunderstood the Scriptures concerning spanking, and I have been in deep grief over the clear evidence I see in my own and in so many others I minister to that spanking as we teach and practice it is wrong… By our arrogant dismissal of Hebrew wisdom for Greco Roman thought we have cut ourselves off from truth that heals and replaced with legalism that wounds. Lord have mercy.”
