PARENTING FREEDOM

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    “Whoever keeps his quiet corner and refuses to have anything to do with the ‘evil world’,
    who observes oppression and violence but does not stir a finger in protest
    cannot proclaim with a clear conscience that our hands have not shed this blood.”
    Malbim commenting on passage in Deuteronomy
  • .: Waiting for Baby :.

  • Aborting Your Child for the Man

    carol | March 31, 2009

    I wonder how many babies have been sacrificed for “the man”.

    Study: Abortions Cause Future Relationship Problems, More Domestic Violence
    http://www.lifenews.com/nat4946.html

    “Some women decide to have abortions because they think having a baby will contribute to problems in their relationship with their husband or boyfriend. However, a new national study finds abortion causes more future relationship problems than carrying the pregnancy to term and parenting.”

    "Mostly for Sarah Palin"

    carol | March 30, 2009

    McCain: People voted ‘mostly for Sarah Palin’ last year
    http://politicalticker.blogs.cnn.com/2009/03/26/mccain-people-voted-mostly-for-sarah-palin-last-year/

    “Over 50 million people voted for me and Sarah Palin – mostly for Sarah Palin,” McCain said.

    Hollywood Palin Fan?? An Oxymoron if I Ever Heard One!

    carol | March 30, 2009

    Angie Harmon: “If I Disagree With Obama It’s Not Because I’m a Racist”
    http://gatewaypundit.blogspot.com/2009/03/angie-harmon-if-i-disagree-with-obama.html

    “Hollywood actress Angie Harmon does not like the way Obama is handling the economy. She says he’s unclassy. She also remains a Sarah Palin fan despite the onslaught of attacks on the popular governor coming from Hollywood.”

    Child Discipline at Ranch: "Persuasion through Love"

    carol | March 30, 2009

    I watched Oprah’s show where she visited the polygamist ranch. She asked how the children were punished. With spanking? Switching? Beating? The teen girls seemed surprised with such a thing, and described their discipline style as “persuasion through love”. It is obvious that the children are EXTREMELY well behaved and obedient, and assuming the teen girls are being honest and that love is really loving, then that says a lot about gentle discipline without corporal punishment.

    http://parentingfreedom.com/discipline/

    No High-Fives For You!

    carol | March 30, 2009

    Connecticut School Bans Physical Contact
    East Shore M.S. Outlaws “High-Fives,” “Hugging” And Horseplay Of Any Kind; Violators May Face Expulsion
    http://wcbstv.com/local/school.bans.hugs.2.969949.html

    Just imagine the changed children if the school is able to enforce this year after year. Removing the positive touch will not be good. Somehow, I doubt this policy will last because if they couldn’t protect the children in the first place, then how will they enforce these new rules?

    Sarah Palin: Anchorage Republican Lincoln Dinner

    carol | March 25, 2009

    Palin’s Speech at 2009 Anchorage Republican Lincoln Dinner
    http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=19E13EA40A1CC1DE

    Sarah is GREAT! The video quality? not so much.

    Relying on Fire Alarms for Safety? Think Again.

    carol | March 25, 2009

    Another reason to keep your children close at night.

    Hat Tip: http://realchoice.blogspot.com/

    Freedom Denied: Nobody is Anonymous

    carol | March 24, 2009

    You know all those forums and message boards that are supposed to be private? You have no privacy protection in Canada!

    Canadian court orders release of forum data
    http://hotair.com/archives/2009/03/24/canadian-court-orders-release-of-forum-data/

    “A judge has ordered Free Dominion, the Canadian counterpart to Free Republic, to release the records of its anonymous forum posters in order to enable a lawsuit by Richard Warman.”

    Forum operators ordered to turn over IPs
    Richard Warman vs the Fourniers
    http://www.freedominion.com.pa/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=115096

    “No forum operater in Canada, and no Canadian blogger who allows the public to post on his blog, can now safely keep any information at all about a website’s members. We highly recommend that Canadian forum operators and bloggers expunge all such records from their files and stop collecting any information that could endanger the anonymity of their posters.”

    Awesome Indeed

    carol | March 24, 2009

    What I am admiring today online:

    The Wall of Awesome
    http://www.thingamababy.com/baby/2009/03/garagesale.html

    I know what it is like to own 3000 books. I posted pictures of some of my bookshelves here:

    http://parentingfreedom.com/2008/06/23/the-organized-homeschool/

    When people mention they have 4000 or 5000 or more books, I am very curious about how they store them? Share pictures please!  Karen??

    Where is Mother?

    carol | March 24, 2009

    “It’s my contention that the first introduction to wish to be dead is when mother is not there and is not available.” Edgar Draper, M.D., LLLI Convention, 1981.

    Spanking Children: What's A Christian To Do?

    carol | March 22, 2009

    The Report on Physical Punishment in the United States
    What Research Tells Us About Its Effects on Children
    http://www.phoenixchildrens.com/PDFs/principles_and_practices-of_effective_discipline.pdf

    • There is little research evidence that physical punishment improves children’s behavior in the long term.
    • There is substantial research evidence that physical punishment makes it more, not less, likely that children will be defiant and aggressive in the future.
    • There is clear research evidence that physical punishment puts children at risk for negative outcomes, including increased mental health problems.
    • There is consistent evidence that children who are physically punished are at greater risk of serious injury and physical abuse.

    Why Is Physical Punishment Not Effective as a Discipline Technique?

    • It does not teach children why their behavior was wrong or what they should do instead.97,98
    • It can interfere with parents’ intended message. The pain and fear associated with physical punishment can interfere with children’s perception and acceptance of parents’ disciplinary message and thus their internalization of that message.81
    • It teaches children that they should behave in desired ways because if not they will be punished, not because there are important, positive reasons for behaving appropriately. Consequently, when the threat of punishment is not present, there is no reason to behave appropriately.97,98
    • It models for children that it is acceptable to use aggression to get their way, especially if they are bigger or more powerful than the other person.99,100
    • It can increase the likelihood that children will attribute hostile intentions to others in social situations that, in turn, increase the likelihood that they will behave aggressively in social interactions.101
    • It may cause children to be afraid of their parents. Such fear can erode the parent-child relationship and can cause children to avoid their parents.80
    • It may teach children to link violence with loving relationships.102

    http://www.phoenixchildrens.com/about/community-outreach-education/effective-discipline.html

    IS CORPORAL PUNISHMENT AN EFFECTIVE MEANS OF DISCIPLINE?
    http://www.apa.org/releases/spanking.html

    “Gershoff found ‘strong associations’ between corporal punishment and all eleven child behaviors and experiences. Ten of the associations were negative such as with increased child aggression and antisocial behavior. The single desirable association was between corporal punishment and increased immediate compliance on the part of the child…”

    “The more often or more harshly a child was hit, the more likely they are to be aggressive or to have mental health problems…”

    “While the nature of the analyses prohibits causally linking corporal punishment with the child behaviors, Gershoff also summarizes a large body of literature on parenting that suggests why corporal punishment may actually cause negative outcomes for children. For one, corporal punishment on its own does not teach children right from wrong. Secondly, although it makes children afraid to disobey when parents are present, when parents are not present to administer the punishment those same children will misbehave…”

    “‘Until researchers, clinicians, and parents can definitively demonstrate the presence of positive effects of corporal punishment, including effectiveness in halting future misbehavior, not just the absence of negative effects, we as psychologists can not responsibly recommend its use,’ Gershoff writes.”

    The study includes this summary of the countries around the world and their positions on corporal punishment:
    http://www.endcorporalpunishment.org/pages/pdfs/reports/GlobalReport2007.pdf

    So, what should a Christian parent do?

    Please take some TIME to read and prayerfully consider my research and conclusions at this link:

    Christian Child Discipline: Is Spanking Biblical? (No!)
    http://parentingfreedom.com/discipline

    Scripture and Quotes
    http://parentingfreedom.com/quotes-discipline/

    Sleep Sharing

    carol | March 22, 2009

    Sleeping arrangements matter of preference
    http://www.theolympian.com/busymama/story/794323.html

    “It turned out we didn’t need most of those [baby] items. In fact, we didn’t even need the nursery.”

    “My husband and I are avid believers in attachment parenting, and we quickly realized that our beautiful daughter slept better in our room — more specifically, in our bed…”

    “The other night, the baby was snoring in his toddler bed, and my husband was tossing and turning in our king-size bed. He finally got up and brought our son into our bed.”

    “‘I just feel better when he’s not that far away from us,’ my husband whispered.”

    “I smiled. I was thinking the same thing, too.”

    Thinking of Going Back to Work?

    carol | March 22, 2009

    THE CRUCIAL FIRST THREE YEARS
    http://www.nfpandmore.org/The%20Crucial%20First%20Three%20Years.pdf  

    The Importance of the Presence of the Mother During the First Three Years
    http://www.nfpandmore.org/Importance%20of%20Mother%20During%20the%20First%20Three%20Years.pdf

    Study: Mothers Care Best for Toddlers, Daycare is Disastrous and Even Relatives Are Lacking
    http://www.lifesitenews.com/ldn/2005/oct/05100401.html

    Myths of Motherhood
    http://www.cwfa.org/articles/8806/BLI/family/index.htm

    "Breastfeeding linked to reduced risk of SIDS"

    carol | March 21, 2009

    Breastfeeding linked to reduced risk of SIDS
    http://www.reuters.com/article/healthNews/idUSTRE5214KG20090302?feedType=RSS&feedName=healthNews

    “Women who breastfeed evidently lower the chances that their baby might die of sudden infant death syndrome or SIDS.”

    “These results add ‘to the body of evidence showing that breastfeeding reduces the risk of SIDS, and that this protection continues as long as the infant is breastfed,’ the investigators conclude.”

    http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/cgi/content/abstract/123/3/e406?maxtoshow=&HITS=10&hits=10&RESULTFORMAT=&fulltext=SIDS&searchid=1&FIRSTINDEX=0&volume=123&issue=3&resourcetype=HWCIT

    Caution Against Using NFP with a Contraceptive Mentality

    carol | March 21, 2009

    LSN Editor Speaks on Openness to Life, Warns Against Using NFP with a Contraceptive Mentality
    http://www.lifesitenews.com/ldn/2009/mar/09032011.html

    “Even Natural Family Planning is only to be used for grave reasons.”

    “‘Just as many outside the Church have witnessed the abuses of the process of annulment and derisively referred to it as ‘Catholic divorce’, so too if we use NFP with a contraceptive mentality, people will see it as ‘Catholic contraception,’ said Westen. He noted that the decision to resort to NFP to avoid pregnancy should never be made for selfish reasons.”

    Obama/Biden Gaffes

    carol | March 20, 2009

    Top 10 gaffes by Barack Obama and Joe Biden
    http://blogs.telegraph.co.uk/toby_harnden/blog/2009/03/20/top_10_gaffes_by_barack_obama_and_joe_biden_

    Hat Tip: http://www.drudgereport.com/

    Sarah Palin REALLY Cares About Families of Special Needs Children

    carol | March 20, 2009

    Messy House Affects Children's Reading?

    carol | March 20, 2009

    Messy House, Messy Minds
    The connections among kids, reading, and an orderly home.
    http://www.slate.com/id/2212318/