PARENTING FREEDOM

attachment parenting, homeschooling, gentle discipline
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  • .: Status Updates :.

    Tuesday, May 15th, 2012 11:25 pm

    Wow… The stories a person’s iTunes music playlist tells… When a lifetime of clues and hints and flashing lights aren’t enough, you sometimes need to hit a brick wall – or visit hell.

  • .: Quotes :.

    “He alone, who owns the youth, gains the Future...
    The state will take youth and will give to youth
    its own education and its own upbringing.
    Your child already belongs to us… What are you?”
    Adolf Hitler
  • Spanking Children: What's A Christian To Do?

    | March 22, 2009

    The Report on Physical Punishment in the United States
    What Research Tells Us About Its Effects on Children
    http://www.phoenixchildrens.com/PDFs/principles_and_practices-of_effective_discipline.pdf

    • There is little research evidence that physical punishment improves children’s behavior in the long term.
    • There is substantial research evidence that physical punishment makes it more, not less, likely that children will be defiant and aggressive in the future.
    • There is clear research evidence that physical punishment puts children at risk for negative outcomes, including increased mental health problems.
    • There is consistent evidence that children who are physically punished are at greater risk of serious injury and physical abuse.

    Why Is Physical Punishment Not Effective as a Discipline Technique?

    • It does not teach children why their behavior was wrong or what they should do instead.97,98
    • It can interfere with parents’ intended message. The pain and fear associated with physical punishment can interfere with children’s perception and acceptance of parents’ disciplinary message and thus their internalization of that message.81
    • It teaches children that they should behave in desired ways because if not they will be punished, not because there are important, positive reasons for behaving appropriately. Consequently, when the threat of punishment is not present, there is no reason to behave appropriately.97,98
    • It models for children that it is acceptable to use aggression to get their way, especially if they are bigger or more powerful than the other person.99,100
    • It can increase the likelihood that children will attribute hostile intentions to others in social situations that, in turn, increase the likelihood that they will behave aggressively in social interactions.101
    • It may cause children to be afraid of their parents. Such fear can erode the parent-child relationship and can cause children to avoid their parents.80
    • It may teach children to link violence with loving relationships.102

    http://www.phoenixchildrens.com/about/community-outreach-education/effective-discipline.html

    IS CORPORAL PUNISHMENT AN EFFECTIVE MEANS OF DISCIPLINE?
    http://www.apa.org/releases/spanking.html

    “Gershoff found ‘strong associations’ between corporal punishment and all eleven child behaviors and experiences. Ten of the associations were negative such as with increased child aggression and antisocial behavior. The single desirable association was between corporal punishment and increased immediate compliance on the part of the child…”

    “The more often or more harshly a child was hit, the more likely they are to be aggressive or to have mental health problems…”

    “While the nature of the analyses prohibits causally linking corporal punishment with the child behaviors, Gershoff also summarizes a large body of literature on parenting that suggests why corporal punishment may actually cause negative outcomes for children. For one, corporal punishment on its own does not teach children right from wrong. Secondly, although it makes children afraid to disobey when parents are present, when parents are not present to administer the punishment those same children will misbehave…”

    “‘Until researchers, clinicians, and parents can definitively demonstrate the presence of positive effects of corporal punishment, including effectiveness in halting future misbehavior, not just the absence of negative effects, we as psychologists can not responsibly recommend its use,’ Gershoff writes.”

    The study includes this summary of the countries around the world and their positions on corporal punishment:
    http://www.endcorporalpunishment.org/pages/pdfs/reports/GlobalReport2007.pdf

    So, what should a Christian parent do?

    Please take some TIME to read and prayerfully consider my research and conclusions at this link:

    Christian Child Discipline: Is Spanking Biblical? (No!)
    http://parentingfreedom.com/discipline

    Scripture and Quotes
    http://parentingfreedom.com/quotes-discipline/

    Sleep Sharing

    | March 22, 2009

    Sleeping arrangements matter of preference
    http://www.theolympian.com/busymama/story/794323.html

    “It turned out we didn’t need most of those [baby] items. In fact, we didn’t even need the nursery.”

    “My husband and I are avid believers in attachment parenting, and we quickly realized that our beautiful daughter slept better in our room — more specifically, in our bed…”

    “The other night, the baby was snoring in his toddler bed, and my husband was tossing and turning in our king-size bed. He finally got up and brought our son into our bed.”

    “‘I just feel better when he’s not that far away from us,’ my husband whispered.”

    “I smiled. I was thinking the same thing, too.”

    Thinking of Going Back to Work?

    | March 22, 2009

    THE CRUCIAL FIRST THREE YEARS
    http://www.nfpandmore.org/The%20Crucial%20First%20Three%20Years.pdf  

    The Importance of the Presence of the Mother During the First Three Years
    http://www.nfpandmore.org/Importance%20of%20Mother%20During%20the%20First%20Three%20Years.pdf

    Study: Mothers Care Best for Toddlers, Daycare is Disastrous and Even Relatives Are Lacking
    http://www.lifesitenews.com/ldn/2005/oct/05100401.html

    Myths of Motherhood
    http://www.cwfa.org/articles/8806/BLI/family/index.htm

    "Breastfeeding linked to reduced risk of SIDS"

    | March 21, 2009

    Breastfeeding linked to reduced risk of SIDS
    http://www.reuters.com/article/healthNews/idUSTRE5214KG20090302?feedType=RSS&feedName=healthNews

    “Women who breastfeed evidently lower the chances that their baby might die of sudden infant death syndrome or SIDS.”

    “These results add ‘to the body of evidence showing that breastfeeding reduces the risk of SIDS, and that this protection continues as long as the infant is breastfed,’ the investigators conclude.”

    http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/cgi/content/abstract/123/3/e406?maxtoshow=&HITS=10&hits=10&RESULTFORMAT=&fulltext=SIDS&searchid=1&FIRSTINDEX=0&volume=123&issue=3&resourcetype=HWCIT

    Caution Against Using NFP with a Contraceptive Mentality

    | March 21, 2009

    LSN Editor Speaks on Openness to Life, Warns Against Using NFP with a Contraceptive Mentality
    http://www.lifesitenews.com/ldn/2009/mar/09032011.html

    “Even Natural Family Planning is only to be used for grave reasons.”

    “‘Just as many outside the Church have witnessed the abuses of the process of annulment and derisively referred to it as ‘Catholic divorce’, so too if we use NFP with a contraceptive mentality, people will see it as ‘Catholic contraception,’ said Westen. He noted that the decision to resort to NFP to avoid pregnancy should never be made for selfish reasons.”

    Obama/Biden Gaffes

    | March 20, 2009

    Top 10 gaffes by Barack Obama and Joe Biden
    http://blogs.telegraph.co.uk/toby_harnden/blog/2009/03/20/top_10_gaffes_by_barack_obama_and_joe_biden_

    Hat Tip: http://www.drudgereport.com/

    Sarah Palin REALLY Cares About Families of Special Needs Children

    | March 20, 2009

    Messy House Affects Children's Reading?

    | March 20, 2009

    Messy House, Messy Minds
    The connections among kids, reading, and an orderly home.
    http://www.slate.com/id/2212318/

    Raise Your Hand

    | March 20, 2009

    Everyone Against Abortion Please Raise Your Hand

    http://www.priestsforlife.org/images/baby-david.htm

    Hat Tip: http://www.jillstanek.com/

    The Teleprompter Adventures of Obama, America's Self-Proclaimed Irish President

    | March 18, 2009

    I waited all day for the video to this, but I never found one.

    http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090318/ap_on_go_pr_wh/obama_speech_mistake;_ylt=Aoci6qlXyDlnE1TD2YD.LSgD5gcF

    http://gatewaypundit.blogspot.com/2009/03/obama-thanks-himself-in-teleprompter.html

    Obama thanked Obama for inviting everyone to the party.

    Isn’t it odd that it didn’t make the headlines!

    I am reminded of the line, “Don’t blame me, I voted for the teleprompter.”

    Is ANYBODY keeping track of the gaffes and lies and mistakes of this President (never mind the Vice-President)?

    And yes, Obama claims he is Irish (in part).

    http://news.sky.com/skynews/Home/World-News/Barack-Obama-Thanks-Himself-In-Teleprompt-Blunder-During-Address-With-Irish-PM-On-St-Patricks-Day/Article/200903315243932?lpos=World_News_First_World_News_Article_Teaser_Region_1&lid=ARTICLE_15243932_Barack_Obama_Thanks_Himself_In_Teleprompt_Blunder_During_Address_With_Irish_PM_On_St_Patricks_Day

    Edited to add:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EAZoxniIefw&feature=player_embedded
    YouTube Hat Tip: http://www.powerlineblog.com/archives/2009/03/023099.php

    Edited again to add more teleprompter fun:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eDJSVPAx8xc

    Barack Obama’s Teleprompter’s Blog
    Reflections from the hard drive of the machine that enables the voice of the Leader of the Free World
    http://baracksteleprompter.blogspot.com/

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