“Forgiveness nearly doubled the chance of a husband or wife doing the same again the next day.”
The secret to a happy married life? Never forgive your partner when they misbehave
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1351695/The-secret-happy-married-life-Never-forgive-partner-misbehave.html#ixzz1DCU3rvw8
“Forgiveness is more likely to tear a marriage apart than keep it together.”
“The findings, published in the Journal of Family Psychology, showed partners who got away with being moody, abusive or sarcastic to their spouses were much more likely to do it again.”
“Those that were rebuked or shunned were more inclined to curb their bad habits.”
“The results showed that forgiveness nearly doubled the chance of a husband or wife doing the same again the next day.”
“Dr McNulty said: ‘Spouses were almost twice as likely to report that their partners had behaved negatively on days after they had forgiven them than on days after they hadn’t.”
“‘There is one plausible explanation – forgiveness allows relatively negative partners to continue their negative behaviours, ultimately harming the relationship.’”
I assume the forgiveness means ignoring the behaviour and just forgetting about it. I wonder about rebuking or shunning and THEN forgiving.
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As a person with a general respect and appreciation for psychology (as God created it, not always as man declares it) and a relative amount of admiration for those in the field, I have to say that these statements are woefully negligent in their definitions and lack of articulation.
They are confusing FORGIVENESS for ENABLING.
I agree. Maybe I shouldn’t have posted the article without learning more about the original study. Anyway, you said it better than me.