Parents are committing atrocious acts in God’s name while completely ignoring common sense.
How can a person say that they can read a parenting book and “get the good out of it” while “ignoring the rest” when it contains passages like this?
“Once he learns that the reward of a tantrum is a swift, forceful spanking, he will NEVER throw another fit….If a parent starts at infancy, discouraging the first crying demands, the child will never develop the habit.” From To Train Up a Child, by Michael and Debi Pearl, pg 84.
“…then use whatever force is necessary to bring him to bay. If you have to sit on him to spank him then do not hesitate. And hold him there until he is surrendered. Prove that you are bigger, tougher, more patiently enduring and are unmoved by his wailing. Defeat him totally. Accept no conditions for surrender. No compromise. You are to rule over him as a benevolent sovereign. Your word is final.” From To Train Up a Child, by Michael and Debi Pearl, Chapter 6: Applying the Rod
“Otherwise, tell him to bend over on the bed or couch; and while he is in this position give some choice admonition. You have his undivided attention. Slowly begin to spank. . . . I found five to ten licks usually sufficient. Sometimes, with older children, usually when the licks are not forceful enough, the child may still be rebellious. . . . A general rule is to continue the disciplinary action until the child is surrendered.” From To Train Up a Child, by Michael and Debi Pearl, Chapter 6: Applying the Rod
“Any spanking, to effectively reinforce instruction, must cause pain. . . For the under one year old, a little, ten- to twelve-inch long, willowy branch (striped of any knots that might break the skin) about one-eighth inch diameter is sufficient. . . . A one-foot ruler, or its equivalent in a paddle, is a sufficient alternative. For the larger child, a belt or larger tree branch is effective.” From To Train Up a Child, by Michael and Debi Pearl, Chapter 6: Applying the Rod
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The author, Samuel Martin, recently sent out an excellent article called “The Tiger Mother vs. The Bear Mother” giving us a taste of his upcoming book tentatively titled, “To parent is human, to forgive divine – Forgiveness Parenting: Exploring the God/Parent/Child relationship in the Christian home.” I can’t wait to order this new book!