“People who were more securely attached to their caregivers as infants were better at recovering from conflict 20 years later.”
How Couples Recover After an Argument Stems from Their Infant Relationships
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/02/110218142453.htm
“Couples’ abilities to bounce back from conflict may depend on what both partners were like as infants…”
“By looking back at observations of the participants and their caregivers from the 1970s, when they were between 12 and 18 months old, the researchers discovered a link between the couples’ conflict recovery behaviors and the quality of their attachment relationship with their caregivers. People who were more securely attached to their caregivers as infants were better at recovering from conflict 20 years later. This means that if your caregiver is better at regulating your negative emotions as an infant, you tend to do a better job of regulating your own negative emotions in the moments following a conflict as an adult.”
“The researchers also found that there is hope for people who were insecurely attached as infants. ‘We found that people who were insecurely attached as infants but whose adult romantic partners recover well from conflict are likely to stay together,’ remarked Salvatore. ‘If one person can lead this process of recovering from conflict, it may buffer the other person and the relationship.’ The health of a relationship can be salvaged if one person can quickly disengage from conflict and avoid dwelling on negative thoughts and emotions…”
How Couples Recover After an Argument Stems From Their Infant Relationships
http://www.psychologicalscience.org/index.php/news/releases/how-couples-recover-after-an-argument-stems-from-their-infant-relationships.html
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