PARENTING FREEDOM

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  • My Baby Loving Her Life

    | July 20, 2011

    The Swing
    Robert Louis Stevenson

    How do you like to go up in a swing,
    Up in the air so blue?
    Oh, I do think it the pleasantest thing
    Ever a child can do!

    Up in the air and over the wall,
    Till I can see so wide,
    River and trees and cattle and all
    Over the countryside–

    Till I look down on the garden green,
    Down on the roof so brown–
    Up in the air I go flying again,
    Up in the air and down!

    My Baby is GROWING!

    | May 29, 2011

    Okay, so I’ve been out of commission for a few weeks. Sorry. I take this “teaching/preaching” platform so seriously that I sometimes worry about the responsibility. Many of my articles need updating and I feel bad if they stay online when I know they need work. I had a change of heart and have now decided to leave the website online even though changes will take months to complete. By the way, all my sites were password protected from EVERYONE – not just you.

    Here is my peace offering for shutting you all out of my website. Hope you like it. :-)

    Each baby grows more quickly! This one is already a big kid! Baby GC is still giving us abundant love and joy.

    Baby GC playing ~ 8 1/2 months

    Baby Update

    | April 5, 2011

    Baby GC is now seven months old. She crawls anywhere she wants to go. She pulls herself to standing against anything nearby. All my babies have had great freedom during the exploration stage. She knows enough to wave hi and bye. She chatters and babbles. She loves to keep up the “ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah” when I pat her mouth. She makes spitting sounds. She’s been reaching her arms up for other family members to hold her, in addition to me. She has tasted a good many books. Her happiness is sucking her thumb while holding a fistful of my hair. Her smiles are huge and her screeches wild when she plays with the keyboard that we put on the floor for her.

    (I almost shut down my website the other day. I don’t update very often. I have so many things on my to-do list! I guess I’ll keep my site online for now. I have so many thoughts and pictures I would like to share with you. It is hard to know what is safe when it comes to posting on the internet. You’d think after blogging for ten years I would have this figured out.)

    List of Loves: As They Happen ~ Part 1

    | March 6, 2011

    I have often read Ann Voskamp’s lovely articles on her blog. She is a homeschooling mother of six. She also takes beautiful photographs and has recently become a New York Times bestselling author.

    For the past couple years, I noticed she kept an ongoing list of things for which she was thankful. I found when I started writing my own lists, it just seemed like a lot of bragging to me. Also, I found that when I thought of things just for the sake of it, there wasn’t much feeling in it, so I didn’t always feel the gratefulness. Sometimes, when I think “thankful”, it is out of a sense of duty instead of deep appreciation. I figured if I shared my lists on my blog or Facebook, people would think I was bragging and that things in my life were sickeningly perfect. I felt that such a list would be unbalanced because I was ignoring all the hardships and pain that I experience in my life. I naturally gravitate toward writing about only the good things in my life, so I thought a list would just draw even more attention to them. I tend to think that people would rather read that your life is just as hard as theirs. And, I think people prefer to hear bad news. It makes better gossip and better ratings on the news.

    Then, I watched Ann Voskamp’s interview in these clips from 100 Huntley Street.

    Having An Attitude Of Gratitude — Ann Voskamp — 1/2

    Having An Attitude Of Gratitude — Ann Voskamp — 2/2

    Ann explained it differently than I had understood. She said she began by thinking of things she loved. That made me realize I could collect my list in a different way. Instead of just sitting down and trying to make an artificial list of things that I SHOULD be grateful for, but may actually be annoyed by at that moment in time, I could live my life everyday and write down the things that made me happy as they came along. Things that made me smile or laugh or feel joy. I don’t have to get hung up on words like thankful, gratitude, or gifts.

    I am going to give it a try. I will write as the things happen to me. I am not going to search for them. I will not commit to writing every day because that would turn into a burden, but I will write when I have the time.

    I have not read Ann Voskamp’s book yet. I decided I want to read it AFTER I make my own list. I want to write what comes into my own head, and then I will enjoy reading her lists.

    I will look for the following as they happen:

    Things/times/people that…

    • make me happy
    • I love
    • give me joy
    • make me smile
    • make me laugh
    • and even, make me truly thankful

    March 4, 2011

    1. Silence… The jabbering going on right now makes me remember that wonderful thing.
    2. Baby GC (6 months) crawling behind my la-z-boy chair and lifting the heat register out of the floor leaving a gaping hole next to her.
    3. Baby GC lifting both arms high in the air for me to pick her up.
    4. Baby GC slurping on my cheek/chin with one tiny sliver of a tooth.
    5. N17 doing lunch dishes, vacuuming, and cleaning the counter and table.
    6. B12 reading a StarWars book to L6 and they are both babysitting GC at the same time – hilarious because she is crawling and likes to eat books.
    7. B12 muscle testing me and Baby GC. He is really great at it. I am very excited about this and look forward to blogging about it. It is a health tool that EVERY mother should know.
    8. C9 talking on the phone to her friends for hours.
    9. I wore my new Tough Traveler backpack yesterday for the first time. Baby GC loved it while I did the supper dishes. It is the best carrier for ages 6 months to 4 years. My first backpack made it through four children, but I needed a new one for this baby. My sister will get it next. I know she will love it because it is for tall people.
    10. I am thankful for my height.
    11. I am thankful for a sunny day.
    12. I look back fondly on the Fridays we spent at the local Christian school over a period of about three years. I miss Mrs. M., but I am thankful for those times, even if most my children don’t remember those days.
    13. I love McDonald’s fries.
    14. I am so thankful we can afford groceries unlike the single mother interviewed on the radio who is struggling now that the cost of food has gone up.
    15. A sales lady at a store asked if I had a new baby. (GC was peeking out of the sling.) I said, “She’s not new, but is now six months old.” She said she was behind the times, and, “So this makes two boys and two girls?” I said, “Three boys and two girls.” She said, “Five children!” And I braced for the negative comments… but instead, “You’re so lucky!” I said, “THANK YOU! Most people don’t have that reaction!” She said she was one of six children so she knows…
    16. Baby GC was in the sling at a store when we became trapped by an old couple. The raggedy old man was so happy to see the baby. He came right up and rubbed her cheek with his own wrinkled fingers. He couldn’t stop grinning and pointing out her blue eyes, etc. to his wife. He said with a big smile, “I love babies.” I felt like I wanted to protect my baby, but I was polite and talked to the strangers. It was only afterward that I realized that I was very thankful for that experience. I was thankful there are people in the world like that old man. People that love babies and little children. People who are drawn to little ones. They are a rare breed. I could tell that his wife was just like most folks who like babies but do not have that gift.  The way this old man felt about GC was just like my Uncle David felt about children. And I think I have a streak of it as well.
    17. I am so relieved and thankful that my credit card is not really lost, but when I called the store, they said it was there. The teller just forgot to give it back to me, and I forgot to ask for it. I have gotten into the habit of not giving it to the teller because it has a chip, and they always say to do it myself, so I rarely have to ask for it back anymore. Baby GC is a distraction for the tellers and the people in line, so no wonder we forgot. I am relieved I don’t have to deal with the problems that would have resulted from a lost card. 
    18. The way Baby GC gives me such huge smiles and arches are back and reaches her arms when I take her out of her carseat to go into each store.
    19. C9 making a small braid in her hair.
    20. The looks on the kids’ faces when I gave them six new Nerf swords/axes (on sale) and hearing a huge battle in the basement.
    21. PVR
    22. The Middle
    23. Chocolate chips
    24. The way Baby GC makes big sighs and coos when she sleeps.

    March 5, 2011

    25. Listening to Mark Levin’s sarcasm and Happy Days are Here Again
    26. Right Scoop gave me a big smile of shared excitement when he wrote about a Sarah Palin interview, “Oh man I feel like the election campaigns have already started! That was awesome!”
    27. Being reminded of Glenn, Stu, and Pat singing Happy Days are Here Again after the 2010 election. Listened to it again and smiled and enjoyed seeing N17 smile about it, too.
    28. Freshly bathed baby in a pink sleeper lying on the floor with a pink toy in her mouth cooing on a Saturday morning. Then, picking up and rocking said baby and having her eyes close immediately upon latching on. And knowing I can just sit and hold her while she nurses and/or sleeps as long as she wants.
    29. Purring kitty
    30. Fox News Channel
    31. The smile on L6′s face when I changed the channel from the news to a Scooby-Doo movie.
    32. Not having to make lunch.
    33. I laid Baby GC on the floor and arranged four of her things around her in a semi-circle. She crawled toward the book.
    34. Holding sleeping baby during another nap.
    35. Not having to make supper.
    36. Holding both my little niece A2 and Baby GC in my lap at the same time while they enjoy each other.
    37. Baby GC fussing in her carseat so we turn on the radio and she starts dancing in her car seat.

    There. That’s a start. I don’t know if my list is normal or if it is even close to what would make other people happy, but I have always known I was different. I guess it doesn’t matter.

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