Carol | March 25, 2010
Men and affairs? It’s all nanny’s fault
According to the psychiatrist Dr Dennis Friedman, entrusting your son to a nanny could turn him into a womaniser
http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/relationships/article7071735.ece
“The idea that there can be one female to meet one set of needs and another to meet different ones…”
“‘It creates a division in his mind between the woman he knows to be his natural mother and the woman with whom he has real hands-on relationship: the woman who bathes him and takes him to the park and with whom he feels completely at one”, Friedman says. “As a result, he grows up with the idea that although he will one day go through all the social and sexual formalities of marriage, he will have at the back of his mind the notion of this other woman, who not only knows, but caters for, all his needs…’”
“If you interfere with the close bond that exists between a mother and child there will eventually be a reaction to it. This can be in a huge way such as abuse — and here he cites the killers of Jamie Bulger — but there can be much smaller, less serious ‘interruptions’ that could have an effect.”
“A newborn baby is totally dependent on its mother, Friedman says. The baby recognises that it has certain ‘rights’ — such as to be loved and comforted by his mother when he needs her. ‘If he is denied these human rights he may grow up to deny somebody else their human rights,’ he says. ‘And with this the seed of antisocial behaviour starts to grow.’”
“Girls are also susceptible to this ‘vacuum of need’, he says, but perhaps less so because the little girls have a different relationship with their mother than little boys do…”
The author “believes that the best place for a baby is with its mother.”
Talk to your baby (using real words)… it boosts their brain
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1260502/Talk-baby-using-real-words—boosts-brain.html
I think there is room for some “baby talk” in addition though. 
Gender-bender chemicals ‘putting everyone at risk’
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1260479/Gender-bender-chemicals-putting-risk.html
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