PARENTING FREEDOM

Carol | July 10, 2011

Morning comes with bright light peeking around the edges of the window blinds. I am being summoned out of a deep sleep with the gentle stirrings of my sleeping baby curled up next to me. I draw her close with kisses and soft murmurings. With eyes still closed, she reaches her little fist out to grasp strands of my long hair, and she pops her trusty thumb in her mouth. This usually gives us some extra sleep before we start the day.

9 1/2 months old

When she stirs again, I remind her I’m here, reach for my firm foam wedges (2-12″ for comfortably sitting up in bed), clip my Brest Friend around my waist, and scoop my baby in my arms. She doesn’t have to cry. Many months ago, she mostly replaced her cry with a “cough” that means, “Hurry up, Mommy!”

Nursing in sleep in bed ~ 2 1/2 months old

She latches on, and her tummy begins to fill with her warm, nutritious breakfast. Another “cough” tells me to switch sides. Before she latches again, she does her morning stretch with arms quivering above her little head that she has arched back. Her legs are stretched right out, down to her bare toes, eyes still closed. Then she nurses more, and by this time, I am starting to fully awaken, and her eyes have begun to squint open, saying, “Of course it’s you, Mommy.” Then she concentrates on looking at me, and in spite of a few milky grins, and attempts at starting a conversation, she finishes her milk. I shove the wedges to the side, and we lay down and cuddle some more, and she begins to chatter and sit or stand on me. “Time to get up, Mommy!”

Up for the day!! ~ 6 1/2 months old

The rest of the day always includes several more nursing sessions, and a baby nursing nap here or there. Maybe even a sleep for Mommy and Baby in the La-Z-Boy chair. At least once a day, I help my six-year-old with his schoolwork with a nursing or sleeping baby in my arms.

Homeschooling a six-year-old
while nurturing a new baby ~ 20 days old
Baby’s bed is the Brest Friend on Mommy’s lap.

The view from my rocking chair ~ almost 5 months old

Occasionally, if Baby is extra tired and Mommy is not, I lay her on a little floor mattress that I slide out from under the bed. That way, I can step away from the area for short times while she sleeps safely. I have an audio/video monitor that I might use on those occasions.

Sleeping on the thin floor mattress next to the bed
during a daytime nap ~ 9 1/2 months old

I have never been a stickler for naps. Although Baby’s need for sleep is respected, I don’t find that naps require a certain place, time, or amount of time. Baby also does not determine our family’s daily activities. Baby may nap in my arms, in the carseat on the way to town, in the sling in a store, at the movies, during a walk, or in the backpack at the grocery store, etc.

Our lifestyle is very welcoming to a baby. She is part of the family, and with the exception of everyone having to wait while we pull off the highway for Baby to have a nursing break or diaper change now and again, there is really no time when Baby causes the family to miss anything. For example, this spring, we did eight Disney/Universal amusement parks in eight days, and we spent another day at the beach! Baby was on board and partying as hard as the rest! (I highly recommend bringing a baby with you to Disney/Universal. Child swap is awesome! The whole family stands in line, and then the parents take turns going on the rides with all the kids. Double the fun for the children in much less time!)

Napping in sling at a Hollywood Studios attraction ~ 8 months old

Nursing nap while visiting relatives ~ 4 months old

Typing the text for this article into the computer ~ 9 1/2 months old

At bedtime, usually around 10 PM, I pour a glass of water, locate the TV remote control, and carry my onesie-clad baby into the bedroom. I arrange my foam wedges, fasten my Brest Friend into place, and my baby begins her bedtime nursing. We both are relaxed, and she usually falls asleep quickly and peacefully. Sometimes, she is not quite worn out, but it doesn’t take much activity before she settles down for more breastmilk. I watch TV or read or write or talk while she nurse-sleeps. Even after she finishes nursing, I may keep holding her until my arm gets all sweaty, and her little body gets too warm. That is exactly where she is as I write these very words. I often don’t want to put her down.

Writing this article in bed with a pencil and paper
I didn’t want to put down my sleeping baby.
9 1/2 months old

I eventually gently position her beside me on her side facing me, with her back to the high, sturdy bed rail. If she isn’t in a deep sleep, she will grab my hair on the way down and suck her thumb while I cuddle and pat her back to sleep. I usually continue watching TV or read as late as I like, right next to my sleeping baby. (I have researched and practice SAFE sleep sharing, but get your own medical advice.) She will stir at least a couple times (more often in the early months) during the night, rarely with a cry, and I readily provide her nighttime comfort and nutrition. All is good.

As an older mother of five and after having experienced a devastating miscarriage, I know that this is a precious time, much to be appreciated, and will be gone all too soon.  “Babies don’t keep.”

Nurturing my baby is truly my highest priority. The mutually satisfying mothering-to-sleep style I have chosen for each of my five babies is an alternative to the Ezzo, cry-it-out, sleep scheduling, Ferberizing methods.

I can’t think of anything more rewarding as a mother than the pleasant experience of nursing my baby to sleep and having my baby sleep next to me. I encourage you to consider being willing to experience and embrace this glimpse of unconditional love.

Trying to stick to strict schedules or having the attitude that if you “let baby get away with this, she will always want to do this” can take all the fun out of sleep-related mothering. Enjoy this peaceful mothering experience. Give your child the gift of your motherly comfort, and make your heart rejoice. 

Live without regrets.

Asleep on Mommy ~ almost 5 months old

“He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young.” Isaiah 40:11

“‘Rejoice with Jerusalem and be glad for her, all you who love her; rejoice greatly with her, all you who mourn over her. For you will nurse and be satisfied at her comforting breasts; you will drink deeply and delight in her overflowing abundance.’ For this is what the LORD says: ‘I will extend peace to her like a river, and the wealth of nations like a flooding stream; you will nurse and be carried on her arm and dandled on her knees. As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you; and you will be comforted over Jerusalem.’ When you see this, your heart will rejoice and you will flourish like grass.” Isaiah 66:10-14

DISCLAIMER: I want to make clear that sleep-related mothering does not always go so smoothly, but I will attest to the fact that the vast majority of the past ten months of my baby’s sleep-related life has been exactly as described as above. Also, I am not an expert, and I am not giving advice, so please refer to your doctor regarding all issues mentioned here and on this website.

For more on this topic, choose from the following:

Article: Does she sleep through the night?

Crying it Out: Essay ~ Bible Verses ~ Quotes ~ Blog Posts ~ Books

Sleep Sharing: Essay ~ Bible Verses ~ Quotes ~ Blog Posts ~ Books 

NOTE: This is my contribution to the 8th annual Ezzo Week hosted at Tulipgirl.com from July 11 -17, 2011. “This week is devoted to both encouraging parents, as well as educating them on the destructive philosophies and practices associated with the parenting teachings of Gary and Anne Marie Ezzo.”

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Carol | June 30, 2011

Michele Bachmann tells SC crowd of ‘devastating’ miscarriage
http://www.politico.com/news/stories/0611/58086.html#ixzz1Qn51lJ6C

“Michele Bachmann spoke candidly Wednesday night about suffering a miscarriage.”

“‘After our second child was born, we became pregnant with a third baby,’ the Republican presidential candidate told hundreds during a town hall at Winthrop University here. ‘And it was an unexpected baby, but of course we were delighted to have this child. And the child was coming along, and we ended up losing that child. And it was devastating for both of us, as you can imagine if any of you have lost a child.’”

“The surprise disclosure came as she explained her opposition to abortion.”

“‘And at that moment we didn’t think of ourselves as overly career minded or overly materialistic,’ she said, also speaking for her husband. ‘When we lost that child, it changed us. And it changed us forever.’”

“Considering the sensitivity of the subject matter, Bachmann maintained remarkable composure. She did not choke up.”

“‘So we made a commitment that no matter how many children were brought into our life, we’d receive them because we’re committed to life,’ she said. ‘And we didn’t know at that time we’d be foster parents, and that one day we’d be parents of 28 children, but we are extremely grateful for that opportunity because you can get money wrong, but you can’t get life wrong. And I am committed to life.’”

“Bachmann has raised five biological children. The youngest just graduated from high school. Over the years, she and her husband took 23 foster children into their home.”

“‘This is an easy one,’ she said of abortion. ‘I am 100% pro-life, from conception until natural death.’”

Hat Tip: http://www.jillstanek.com/

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Carol | February 15, 2011

You are never the same after you lose a baby. Even if that little unborn baby was only the size of a big marshmallow. That was actually the nickname my littlest boy gave his tiny baby brother as he was dying. Marshmallows. There was nothing I could do to save my baby’s life. I just had to wait in anguish and go through the motions of miscarrying a most wanted child - MY child.

And then came many months of trying to heal. Trying to get on with life. But I knew the pain would never go away. I knew that having another baby would be an important part of the healing process. I needed another baby. And my dreams came true. I became pregnant again. It turned out to be the most physically and emotionally challenging nine months of my life. I believe the dibilitating fatigue was part of the healing phase of my miscarriage. For the first half of this new pregnancy, I was also constantly worried that my baby girl would die, too. It was hard to live, hard to cope.

But then the long pregnancy was over. And this is how that happened…

Derek had been working 2 1/2 hours away, Mondays through Fridays, for the previous 2 1/2 years. Although thankful for his job, I was very nervous about whether or not he would make it home in time for the birth. He wanted to work as much as possible, and I knew I had to be able to tell him the time to come within reason. I had contractions for many weeks, and then right around the due date, they became very regular. I summoned him home, but it turned out to be a false alarm. Then at 9:30 in the morning of September first, 2010, exactly a week following my due date, regular contractions began again, along with other familiar labour symptoms. After about an hour, I called Derek, strongly suggesting this was it. An hour later, I called him again to see if he got the hint. He did and was on his way. I tidied the house, cooked oatmeal for lunch, and made sure the kids were clean and ready.

When he arrived home, I was relaxing in the tub (after shaving my legs), wishing I could just stay there and give birth. He began pressuring me to get going, but I told him that just because he arrived didn’t mean I was ready to go. If I had wanted to go, I would have already been on my way. I knew the worst thing I could do would be to arrive at the hospital too early. That would leave room for unwanted interventions and unnecessary stress. I took my time getting dressed, putting on my make-up, and packing the last few things. Once I had everything ready to go, Derek put the stuff in the car.

We said “See ya later” to the kids and headed to the hospital which is only about ten minutes away. On the drive, I clocked the contractions at a minute and a half apart. Pretty good timing. We pulled into an expectant mothers’ parking spot, carried our stuff into the hospital, and walked up the stairs to the maternity floor, checking in at around three in the afternoon. I had to stand around, leaning against the wall, waiting for paper work. It seemed to take a long time before we were allowed to go to the birthing room. The chair for the father was behind the bathroom door, so after begging Derek to rearrange the furniture, I tried to relax. I laboured some on the toilet and also on the edge of the bed. A nurse stood where Derek should have been able to sit. I let the nurses check me and even put a stethoscope on me. I was 6 cm upon arrival, but after my water broke (with a green tint) fifteen minutes later, I quickly went to 9 1/2 centimeters.

I am convinced the two nurses assigned to me had never witnessed a natural labour and delivery. They didn’t know what to do with themselves without having a computer screen to give them instructions on my progress. They didn’t seem to know that it makes contractions much more painful when they keep talking to and disturbing the labouring woman. It is so important to be able to completely relax and stay focused in order to prevent pain medication and medical interventions. I kept asking them to put on the birthing bar, and I’m not sure why they were hesitant to install it. Then, a nurse told me she had called the doctor who told them to notify her at about twenty minutes before. I said to the nurse, “Oh, you’re going to deliver it, are you?” She quickly left the room to call the doctor again. I guess they aren’t used to seeing a calm, relaxed, and rational woman during transition.

When the doctor arrived (the one who said to me after my miscarriage, “So, you think you had a miscarriage”), I asked again for the birthing bar, but still, they did not put it on. It took asking one more time. They didn’t understand that my body would hold back until everything was ready for me. That’s how it works. It took a little while for them to figure out how to install the birthing bar, and then I climbed on the bed into position. The bar proved helpful for my previous four births, but little did I know that it would cause trouble this time around. My labour was getting harder, and I began to push. My previous birth had only taken two pushes, so I couldn’t understand why it was taking longer this time. Later, I found out that the head was out, but I had no idea. At that point in delivery, it can be impossible to tell, and I couldn’t see. The doctor told me to, “Push, push.” I knew this was the typical thing to say, no matter the stage, so I did not make an unusual effort. I was getting fed up with the nurse putting the stethoscope on me. I can’t believe I put up with it that long, and I wish I had realized it earlier. I finally told her, “Please get the stethoscope off me.” The doctor told the nurse to back off, and told me to push. I noticed a worried look on her aging face. I realized it was important when Derek told me to push as well. All of this happened in seconds. Derek telling me to push made me understand something was wrong. I looked at my leg, and told them it was on the wrong side of the bar. The doctor didn’t care or think that was the case and just wanted me to push. I took charge of myself and put my leg on the other side of the bar which made the birth canal wider, and I pushed out the baby easily. This was at 4:30 P.M. I noticed my doctor tell a male doctor in the doorway that she didn’t need him. She must have hit an emergency button for help because the baby’s shoulder had been stuck. I was the first to see that she was a baby girl. I noticed she was very mucousy as well. I know the doctor was more than a little rattled with the shoulder being stuck, but I wish she had known enough to communicate that bit of information during the birth. It would have helped to know the head had been out instead of half-way up the birth canal like I thought. I was shocked when they gave us a three-second skin-to-skin hello and whisked my baby right over to the bassinet while I pleaded for them not to let her arms flail. (It breaks my heart to see that on birthing shows.) The male doctor took charge of the baby, suctioning her nose and administering oxygen. My doctor waited impatiently for the placenta. I am always disappointed with how anxious she is to hurry that out of me. I knew they were waiting for it to come before they gave my baby back to me. They should have given me my baby to nurse which would have helped it come more naturally.

No matter how much I want to stand up for my rights, birthing circumstances make it almost impossible to fight the system. You need an educated natural birthing advocate who knows your birth preferences and the difference between routine procedure and what is necessary. I did the best I could, but each of the five times I have given birth, I have longed to live in an area that offered natural birthing support.

Baby had already peed a lot on the bassinet, so we’ll never know how much more she would have weighed than the ten pounds, two ounces recorded. She measured 21 1/2 inches long. They put a newborn diaper on her, but after realizing it was too small, they had to hunt for a size one. Finally, they gave me my darling baby daughter who latched on and began to breastfeed like a champ right away.

We called home to tell the children. We also called other family members. N16 drove his siblings down to visit right away. They were delighted to meet their new baby sister. It was a very exciting and special time for the seven of us. We took a few pictures. There were no nurses in sight. They spent the next couple hours doing paper work – not kidding. We all had Subway for supper, right there in the birthing room.

We dressed Baby GC in a little yellow and blue outfit that matched C9 and her doll. The first person, outside my own little family, to see Baby GC was Grampie S. Then Grammie came in the room, and Derek’s parents soon followed. We took more pictures. Baby GC nursed the whole time.

Eventually, they told me there was one bed available (in the whole hospital). I paid for private rooms for my four previous births, so I was very disappointed that I was expected to share a room. I decided to give it a try. I held the baby and was wheeled into the room. There wasn’t a pillow for the bed. We asked the staff for one, but they came back empty-handed. The woman in the next bed had brought a pillow from home, so she offered me hers. I wondered how I could possibly breastfeed and co-sleep with only one pillow. Impossible really. The room was severely hot. Visitors for the woman in the next bed had to go by my bed. I had to go by her bed and her visitors to go to the bathroom. That is not fun after giving birth. The beds made the worst possible racket and the woman next to me just couldn’t get hers comfortable. Squeak. Squeak. All in all, I was shocked at the difference in the hospital since I had first given birth there. There was less help and comfort for each birth. The environment and support this time was absolutely unacceptable to me. They consider the hospital to be breastfeeding friendly, but as an experienced breastfeeding mother (almost 12 1/2 year veteran), I found it terrible. I felt so bad for the young mothers who have to learn to breastfeed for the first time in that environment. Finally, about four hours after giving birth, they wheeled in the baby bed/cabinet with supplies. I wonder what took so long.

I imagined my lovely nest at home, and knew (from past experience) that I would get little sleep, no rest, and next to no help at the hospital. The nurses are usually kind and nice, but they don’t have time to help, and Derek will never stay the night. When I made the decision to go home, you can be sure that the environment must have been pretty bad if my grandparents and in-laws fully supported and understood my reasons for taking my baby home when she was only 4 1/2 hours old. Even though it was a very warm evening, we decided to put the same little white sleeper on Baby GC that all four of my other babies wore home from the hospital. After stuffing the diaper bag with the few diapers that were in the baby bed/cabinet, and buckling the baby in her carseat, we headed down to the van. At around nine in the evening, we met my parents as they were driving into the hospital parking lot and told them to follow us home.

That is how joy returned after the mourning. For me, Baby GC is the embodiment of joy itself. She has smiled since she was born. I still get worried that she will die, but I try to let it go.

“I thank my God upon every remembrance of [her].” Philippians 1:3

I do fear I have a “Abraham-loved-Isaac-too-much” problem, but I guess the first step is to recognize it.

The day I described above was only the beginning of a delightful adventure of getting to know and enjoy another precious soul on her journey through life. And we are truly blessed to have been given this opportunity.

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Carol | February 6, 2011

Christian Alexander….Precious In God’s Eyes
http://ourfruitfulharvest.blogspot.com/2011/02/christian-alexanderprecious-in-gods.html

Please pray for this dear family and all the families who lose tiny babies through miscarriage. God bless them all.

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Carol | February 6, 2011

Don’t wait too long for a baby: Women are SIX times more likely to suffer from fertility problems when 35 than at 25
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1351237/Women-6-times-likely-suffer-fertility-problems-35-25.html#ixzz1DCQP51VF

This is so common. Waiting for perfection won’t happen.

“Doctors have issued a stark warning to couples not to leave it too late to try for a baby… Men’s fertility also declines rapidly from the age of 25.”

One in eight women will get breast cancer as lifestyle blamed for huge rise in cases
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1353474/Breast-Cancer-1-8-women-lifestyle-blamed-huge-rise.html#ixzz1DCdM5Iyu

“Scientists blame obesity, alcohol and the growing tendency to delay motherhood for record levels of the disease.”

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Carol | January 27, 2011

During almost every discussion of abortion I witness among believers, I hear them comfort and reassure themselves with the assertion that “Well, it’s a terrible thing, but at least the babies are going to Heaven.” That is such a well-established, main-stream belief. How could a wonderful, loving and just God ever send an innocent little baby to hell?

I don’t know the answer. I am not going to argue either way, but I am not convinced that we honestly know the answer for certain.

Do babies (including the unborn and aborted) go to Heaven when they die? What will happen to a community of people, stranded on an island, who have never heard of Christ?

Well, hell is what we all deserve. It is only by the grace of God that any of us are spared.

“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.” Romans 3:23 (KJV)

How does God see us? Are we seen by our age? By our accountability? What about by our ability? How about our service? By our faith? Or are we seen as souls or spirits foreknown and predestined?

We were known before we were formed in the womb. BEFORE we were babies. BEFORE we were even unborn babies.

“Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations.” Jeremiah 1:5 (KJV)

A potter decides to create a masterpiece. He takes a great lump of clay, uniform throughout. Some of the clay is used to create the sculpture. Some is discarded. What is the difference between the clay that is used and the clay that is rejected? The used clay is that which the potter decides to draw to Himself and use for his glory. It is not because that clay is better or even different. The discarded clay is what He does not draw to Himself. It is His choice. Why was Jacob chosen and Esau rejected even before birth?

“(For the children being not yet born, neither having done any good or evil, that the purpose of God according to election might stand, not of works, but of him that calleth;) It was said unto her, The elder shall serve the younger. As it is written, Jacob have I loved, but Esau have I hated. What shall we say then? Is there unrighteousness with God? God forbid. For he saith to Moses, I will have mercy on whom I will have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I will have compassion. So then it is not of him that willeth, nor of him that runneth, but of God that sheweth mercy. For the scripture saith unto Pharaoh, Even for this same purpose have I raised thee up, that I might shew my power in thee, and that my name might be declared throughout all the earth. Therefore hath he mercy on whom he will have mercy, and whom he will he hardeneth. Thou wilt say then unto me, Why doth he yet find fault? For who hath resisted his will? Nay but, O man, who art thou that repliest against God? Shall the thing formed say to him that formed it, Why hast thou made me thus? Hath not the potter power over the clay, of the same lump to make one vessel unto honour, and another unto dishonour?” Romans 9:11-21 (KJV)

“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren. Moreover whom he did predestinate, them he also called: and whom he called, them he also justified: and whom he justified, them he also glorified.” Romans 8:28-30 (KJV)

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who hath blessed us with all spiritual blessings in heavenly places in Christ: According as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love: Having predestinated us unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ to himself, according to the good pleasure of his will, To the praise of the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us accepted in the beloved.” Ephesians 1:3-6 (KJV)

Is there a difference between babies of believers and babies of non-believers? I believe so. I believe the little children of believers (both born and unborn) are part of the covenant.

“And he [David] said, While the child was yet alive, I fasted and wept: for I said, Who can tell whether GOD will be gracious to me, that the child may live? But now he is dead, wherefore should I fast? can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me.” 2 Samuel 12:22-23 (KJV)

“But now, O LORD, thou art our father; we are the clay, and thou our potter; and we all are the work of thy hand.” Isaiah 64:8 (KJV)

(On a related note, I recall Billy Graham saying that he thinks only about 5% of the people who walked the aisle and said the prayer at his crusades actually became Christians. That sounds like the claims of walking the aisle and saying the correct prayer getting you to Heaven is a little misleading.)

My purpose in writing this is because I worry about the perhaps false assurance many people embrace in regard to abortion. I think this is one major reason why our culture continues to permit the slaughter of our unborn children.

As Christians, we are called to rescue the perishing.

“Rescue those being led away to death; hold back those staggering toward slaughter. If you say, ‘But we knew nothing about this,’ does not he who weighs the heart perceive it? Does not he who guards your life know it? Will he not repay everyone according to what they have done?” Proverbs 24:11,12 (NIV)

And, we also must remember to obey The Great Commission.

“Go ye into all the world, and preach the gospel to every creature.” Mark 16:15 (KJV)

“Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house.” Acts 16:31 (KJV)

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Carol | January 23, 2011

Our little miracle: Mother reveals baby joy after 12 years of miscarriage misery
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1344607/Mother-reveals-baby-joy-12-years-miscarriage-misery.html?ITO=1490

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Carol | December 14, 2010

I heard the full interview on television, but I can’t find the complete video or complete transcript online.

I felt very sad for Lisa Ling when she shared about her miscarriage on The View. She came across very vulnerable. It seemed strange for her to talk about this topic among that group of pro-abortion women. The women looked so uncomfortable and reacted quite awkwardly. They did not provide any support. I think they knew where it would lead. She mentioned that the heart stopped beating at seven weeks, and she miscarried at nine weeks… The heart stopped beating at seven weeks… Seven weeks… The heart… The heart of every human being begins to beat at 21 days after conception. The reporter from ENews said, “Her baby had no heartbeat.” Talking about unborn babies with beating hearts is not a welcome theme on The View. How can they sympathize when a woman shares about the death of her unborn baby? They advocate the right to kill that child every chance they get. Whoopie’s main reason for abortion is in cases where the woman is poor. Instead of helping the poor, kill their babies.

Lisa Ling Discusses Miscarriage

“Six months ago, I had a miscarriage. And yeah, it was so shocking, uh, for me as someone who is a very ambitious, and in my own head, confident person to have had this happen, I just felt like such an incredible failure. And I felt so alone when it happened.”

“We actually [hadn't] been trying that long. I don’t know that I took it as seriously as I should have because it happened so fast. But then when I heard the doctor say there was no heartbeat it was like bam, like a knife through the heart…

“Once I did start talking to friends, I realized that it is so pervasive. Almost every one of my friends has had one one time or another, but nobody talks about it.”

“I hope that women can get to a place where they can finally talk about it because it is so great to find comfort.”

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Carol | December 13, 2010

The climate of fear that has poisoned our schools: Ousted teacher exposes the tyranny of liberalism that has betrayed a generation of children
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1336016/Ousted-teacher-exposes-liberal-tyranny-betrayed-children.html#ixzz1826bYrs7

“Because my experiences in teaching have taught me that it is not lack of money or prejudice that keep my children poor, although clearly money is useful and prejudice is to be found everywhere…”

“The regular dumbing-down of our examination system is obvious to any teacher who is paying attention and who has been in the game for some time…”

“I threw off the weight of the Leftist ideology that had weighed me down for so long and shouted: ‘Free at last! Free at last!’…”

Travesty of our ‘stagnating’ schools: In a damning indictment of Labour, OECD condemns British education which is now inferior to Estonia’s
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1336410/OECD-condemns-British-education-inferior-Estonias.html#ixzz182BsMpqX

“Despite doubled spending since 2000, the education of teenagers has ‘stagnated at best’.”

“A fifth of 15-year-old Britons are ‘functionally illiterate.’”

Top Test Scores From Shanghai Stun Educators
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/12/07/education/07education.html?_r=1&pagewanted=all

Good Grades in High School Lead to Better Health, Study Suggests
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/12/101207112448.htm

“Higher academic performance in high school plays a critical role in better health throughout life…. ‘We already know it matters for things like your work and your earnings, but this proves it also matters for your health.’”

Middle-class schoolboy, 12, hangs himself after ‘taunts he spoke too politely’
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1337107/Boy-12-hangs-bullied-talking-politely.html#ixzz182GNPSiF

“He never would have done it if he wasn’t being bullied at school.”

If your child is bullied at school, get him out.

Teacher Suffers Miscarriage Breaking Up Classroom Brawl
http://www.nbcnewyork.com/news/local-beat/Teacher–111665299.html

The 12 Days of Winter – The Heidi Harris Show on News Talk 720 KDWN/Las Vegas, NV

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Carol | November 8, 2010

‘Here’s the foetus’: George Bush reveals moment his mother shared her miscarriage agony
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1327757/George-Bush-interview-Ex-President-reveals-moment-mother-shared-miscarriage-agony.html?ITO=1490#ixzz14kYaUDmp

“George W Bush today reveals that his mother had a miscarriage when he was a teenager and showed him the foetus in a jar.”

“In a remarkably candid interview to be broadcast tonight, the former President said Barbara Bush asked doctors to save the dead baby so she could show it to her son.”

“On a subsequent hospital visit she calmly motioned to the jar and told
him: ‘Here’s the foetus’.”

“The astonishing episode left a huge impact on the young Mr Bush and hardened his pro-life stance, causing him to lean further to the right on issue of abortion and stem cell therapy.”

“‘There’s no question that affected me, a philosophy that we should
respect life,’ he said.”

“‘There was a human life, a little brother or sister’.”

“He had driven his mother to hospital for an appointment following the miscarriage when she showed him the jar containing the child.”

He will likely be asked about this during interviews all week. I will add to this post if necessary.

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