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    carol | March 13, 2010

    With my hands cupping my womb, I could feel the baby moving around last night! The date would be just past 16 weeks pregnancy/14 weeks after conception. So far, I can only feel movement with my hands. I can’t feel it in my body yet. When I wake up each morning, a big bump sticks up when I lie on my back, but during the rest of the day, it sort of hides. (To clarify, my stomach doesn’t hide - just the womb. LOL)

    I have my maternity clothes ready to go. I ordered some new things online. I hope they won’t make me look too hideous this time around. Fortunately, this was the first time I could buy tall maternity pants. What a relief!  I still wear my regular shirts, and I can comfortably button at least three pairs of my non-maternity pants, but that won’t last much longer. I recently got out my box of stored maternity clothes and made a ‘keep’ pile and a ‘give-away’ pile. It is funny how the pants style has changed so much in just six years – not only the legs, but the back pockets of jeans. I had a great laugh at myself when I tried on some of my old maternity mom-jeans. If you think regular mom-jeans are bad, you should have seen these! The scariest thing is that they are in the ‘keep’ pile until I have the energy to go shopping for a  couple more pairs in a nearby city. To my knowledge, there are ZERO places to buy maternity clothes locally. Sad, really. What do pregnant women do?

    We stopped at a furniture store last night to look at their rocker/recliners. The one I used for my last baby was a very old chair that came from my grandparents. Years ago, we dragged the matching one to the end of the road on Big Garbage Day after one of the kids threw up on it. Both chairs were worn out anyway. I didn’t find a new one that I liked, but we only went to one place. There is lots of time. Then again, it’s hard to believe that in only a few short weeks, I will be half-way through this pregnancy. Yikes!

    I have a new extra-tall bed rail ready for our king-size bed, and I bought new foam wedges for nursing in bed. These are two of my most needed baby items. My wish list also includes new slings, a wrap-around nursing pillow, a dresser for baby clothes, etc.

    My eight-year-old daughter is knitting a blanket for the new baby. At first, she chose pink yarn, but she was encouraged to get white in case it’s not a girl! I’ll take a boy and/or a girl, but she would LOVE to have a sister. After all, when we thought she was getting a girl kitten, it turned out to be a boy when we took her to get spayed. LOL

    This has been by far my most difficult pregnancy – both physically and emotionally.

    Emotionally: Pregnancy following miscarriage is extremely stressful. I never expected it to be so hard. I also have worries of my husband’s job insecurity and the threat of moving hanging over my head.

    Physically: I  am thankful that the 24-hour morning sickness began to slowly ease at 11 weeks, and the last couple weeks have been much better. It was a rough first trimester. In the fall, I was feeling quite well most of the time, but within just a couple weeks of the pregnancy, the Chronic Fatigue Syndrome that I have battled since I was sixteen years old kicked in big time. I didn’t expect to have such debilitating fatigue with this pregnancy. I am particularly grateful for two things in this regard:

    #1 I had the house renovations and house cleaning completely ready just days before I became pregnant. That makes me feel sooooooo much better, because even though I can’t keep up, and I am getting behind with the housekeeping, it is not as overwhelming as it would have been. I pray for strength to be able to cope if we have to move, and also for the basic nesting that I need to do.

    #2 As always, I am very thankful for our homeschooling method. It has been so flexible over the many years of ups and downs with my health. The three oldest children are capable of doing their schoolwork with minimum or even no help from me if necessary. I do not fret over my five-year-old because I know there is lots of time, and as long as he continues to learn a little phonics and math facts here and there, he will do just as well as his brothers and sister. There were many times I was physically unable to put much into homeschooling over the years, yet the children are doing great.

    I haven’t been very chatty on my blog lately because I am just too tired. I have mostly been posting links and quotes with the occasional commentary.

    One interesting change in my lifestyle has occurred after an appointment with another naturopath. I have searched for health answers since I was a teenager. I have tried many, many things – sometimes with good results, but most of the time, nothing helped. During the past few months, I have been desperate to find answers. I don’t know if this time will make the difference, but I am giving it my full effort, even if it kills me. So, with the goal of achieving better health, I have gone vegan! In the past, I was familiar with the vegetable juicing and vegetable smoothies and nut milk and all, but I have never completely eliminated meat/fish/eggs/dairy at the same time before (still using butter). I am also doing no-sugar again. It has been eighteen days, and I have seen no improvement, and unfortunately some negative effects. I will stick with it religiously for a while yet, and I hope to keep at least some of the new habits for the rest of my life. The children have been doing great as well. They are not eating vegan or even vegetarian, but their diets have improved greatly with a salad almost every day and no junk – yet. Over the years, we have gone through many times of eating healthy and eating poorly. I have always found it very discouraging when a strict healthy diet did nothing for my health. Hopefully, this time will be different.

    I haven’t been doing too much during the past few months except trying to cope. One helpful thing has been our amazing winter! I have never seen a winter with such little snow and such great weather. We are having another sunny day, and the forecast is amazing! I haven’t had the strength to enjoy being outside, but in many ways, the weather has been very encouraging.

    Hmmm… what else would you like to know? :-)

    “Breastfeeding Could Save The Lives Of 1.3 Million Children a Year”

    carol | March 5, 2010

    Breastfeeding Could Save The Lives Of 1.3 Million Children a Year
    http://www.naturalnews.com/028238_brstfeeding_infant_health.html

    “WHO recommends that infants start breastfeeding within one hour of birth and consume nothing but breast milk — not even water — for the first six months of life…”

    “If 90 percent of women met the WHO breastfeeding guidelines, the agency says, 13 percent of global deaths under the age of five could be prevented, translating into 1.3 million lives saved per year.”

    Interesting Study on Monkeys and Breastmilk

    carol | March 3, 2010

    Baby Monkeys Receive Signals Through Their Mother’s Breast Milk That Affect Behavior and Temperament
    http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/03/100302142331.htm

    “Later Introduction of Baby Foods Related to Lower Risk of Obesity Later in Life”

    carol | February 18, 2010

    Later Introduction of Baby Foods Related to Lower Risk of Obesity Later in Life
    http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/02/100216142336.htm

    “One area of great interest is the possibility that being breastfed might predispose a person to being lean, and the longer the better. Extended breastfeeding, however, is usually associated with delayed introduction of complementary “baby” foods, and it is possible that this (gain rather than breastfeeding) might influence weight…”

    “For instance, for each month introduction of vegetables was delayed, the risk of being overweight at 42 y of age was reduced by 10%.”

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    “Children who are breastfed for more than six months are less likely to have mental health problems in later life.”

    carol | January 18, 2010

    Breastfeeding for more than six months leaves children less likely to suffer mental health problems later in life
    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1244184/Breastfeeding-months-leaves-children-likely-suffer-mental-health-problems-later-life.html#ixzz0czXwLIO1

    “Children who are breastfed for more than six months are less likely to have mental health problems in later life, according to new research.”

    “Experts believe that nutrients in mothers’ milk, and the bonding process, may have a long-lasting effect…”

    “‘There are a number of ways extended breastfeeding could assist child development. We know that breast milk is packed full of nutrients that help with the rapid brain development that occurs in the early years. It might also signal a strong mother-child attachment and these benefits may last.’”

    “UNICEF and the World Health Organization recommend infants should be exclusively breastfed for the first six months and ‘that breastfeeding should continue to contribute an important part of a baby’s diet through the second year of life and beyond’.”

    Attachment Parenting View from 1951 (Original Father of the Bride 2)

    carol | December 31, 2009

    I am sure you have watched Father of the Bride and Father of the Bride 2. Well, they are based on movies from the early fifties. The original sequel was called Father’s Little Dividend and it was filmed in 1951. I found the following section very interesting in regard to attachment parenting. The father, Stanley Banks (Spencer Tracy), and his daughter Kay (Elizabeth Taylor) were saying that everyone should stop interfering in her pregnancy. She went on to explain her doctor’s radical views which certainly shocked her father.

    Kay: “I guess they just don’t understand the new way of looking at things. As Dr. Nordell says, birth is a perfectly natural thing, a glorious thing, and wants you to be conscious every minute so you they don’t miss a second of it. He believes a woman should be aware of the wonderful thing that is happening to her. And another thing, he doesn’t believe that a woman should be separated from her baby for one second after it’s born. You should carry it with you, right back to your room, and keep it there with you, sleeping right there with you in your hospital bed.”

    Stanley Banks: “That is a little new isn’t it.”

    Kay: “Oh, Pop, that’s not new! Primitive woman has always done it. Dr. Nordell was in the Pacific and he said the women there, why, they were never separated from their babies. They kept them slung on their backs for the first two years of their lives. He said it was wonderful for the baby. He said if he had his way, all of his mothers would do that. You would carry them on your back while you were doing housework and when it got hungry, you would swing it around and feed it, and swing it back again. He says it gives the baby a wonderful feeling of security.”

    Father’s Little Dividend 5/12 (1951) (Clip beginning at 3:40)

    Please, young women, get educated about birthing…

    carol | December 15, 2009

    NHS maternity services in meltdown: A former midwife reveals how understaffed wards are sinking into chaos
    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1235921/Midwives-meltdown-A-NHS-worker-reveals-understaffed-maternity-wards-sinking-chaos.html#ixzz0ZoE2NjQd

    “Welcome to the modern NHS maternity ward. A world of shoddy practice, poor hygiene standards and a shocking disregard for patients’ individual needs…”

    “We offer them strong painkilling drugs such as pethidine or diamorphine – which is a form of heroin.”

    Drugs keep the mother nice and quiet which, of course, suits staff.”

    “But they also likely to make her and her unborn baby terribly sleepy.”

    “Although these drugs can sometimes increase contractions, they all too often slow them down.”

    “The end result at the woman will need more drugs, not fewer, and labour will take longer.”

    “But, of course, we don’t explain of that as we dole out our pain killers. Besides, on a busy ward, what’s the alternative?”

    “Once a woman is in full labour, you’d thought we’d put her needs first. But I’m embarrassed to admit that, all too often, we were not allowed to.”

    “Most hospitals rigidly enforce the rule that, once in labour, a woman’s canal must dilate at the rate of 1cm an hour.”

    “If that isn’t happening, midwives are encouraged to tell the her that her baby may be getting in distress – even if that isn’t the case.”

    “Terrified and exhausted by a haze of drugs, the woman agrees to anything which is offered.”

    “In practice, this means we give her extra drugs to intensify the contractions and so speed the arrival of the child.”

    “Her pain levels increase and she’ll need an epidural injection in her spine to numb the pain around her groin.”

    “It’s a vicious circle. I felt terribly mean persuading women to go along with it. I knew I wasn’t always acting in their best interests. But what could I do?”…

    “The truth is that breastfeeding rates are plummeting in the hospitals I’ve worked in.”

    “The reason is simple. Midwives don’t have the time to spend helping mothers to feed properly.”

    “And without that vital support in the early days, women give up…”

    “Weak and in pain, they don’t have the knowledge or strength to stand up for themselves.”

    “Instead, they end up being patronised by doctors and bullied by midwives into taking drugs they don’t want.”

    “But what makes me most sad and angry is that those hospital staff – everyone from managers down – are taking advantage of women when they are at their most vulnerable.”

    Breastfeeding on Sesame Street

    carol | November 15, 2009

    Sesame Street turns 40: Segments promote breastfeeding over the years
    http://www.examiner.com/x-29156-Minneapolis-Breastfeeding-Examiner~y2009m11d14-Sesame-Street-turns-40-Segments-promote-breastfeeding-over-the-years

    “One well-known clip from 1977 features a mother named Buffy and her infant son, Cody. While she nurses her baby, Buffy explains to Big Bird why some mothers feed their babies at their breast. ‘He likes it because it’s nice and warm and sweet and natural; it’s good for him. And I get to hug him while I do it!’”

    Sesame Street – Buffy Nurses Cody

    “The original clip (see below) was aired in the mid-1980s and briefly shows a mother breastfeeding her baby at approximately the 1:10 mark. This segment was updated for the 21st century and, sadly, the breastfeeding clip was replaced with that of a baby being bottle-fed.”

    Sesame Street – You’re My Baby (original version)

    “The most recent video promoting breastfeeding on Sesame Street is also from the 1980s and shows the popular character Maria nursing her (very covered up) daughter. Like Buffy in the first video, Maria explains why she enjoys breastfeeding her baby. ‘I like feeding her this way [at the breast] the best; it’s natural, it’s good for her, and I get a chance to hug her some more!’”

    Sesame Street – Maria breastfeeds

    "Had I ever practiced CIO, I would have woken to a lifeless baby."

    carol | October 25, 2009

    Saving My Baby
    http://fiercemamas.blogspot.com/2009/10/saving-my-baby.html

    “In the hallway, the cardiologist turned to me and quietly told me that it was my parenting – the constant carrying – that had allowed her to survive against all odds.”

    “My daughter never cried alone, left in a room. Had I ever practiced CIO, I would have woken to a lifeless baby.”

    Hat Tip: Megan (Thanks!)

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    Should I Sleep With My Baby?

    carol | October 18, 2009

    Cosleeping and Biological Imperatives: Why Human Babies Do Not and Should Not Sleep Alone
    http://neuroanthropology.net/2008/12/21/cosleeping-and-biological-imperatives-why-human-babies-do-not-and-should-not-sleep-alone/

    “It is absolutely wrong to say, for example, that ‘cosleeping is dangerous’ when roomsharing is a form of cosleeping and this form of cosleeping (as at least three epidemiological studies show) reduce an infant’s chances of dying by one half…”

    “When done safely, mother-infant cosleeping saves infants lives and contributes to infant and maternal health and well being. Merely having an infant sleeping in a room with a committed adult caregiver (cosleeping) reduces the chances of an infant dying from SIDS or from an accident by one half!…”

    Hat Tip: http://www.tulipgirl.com/

    More reading: http://parentingfreedom.com/sleep/

    Baby Woolly Mammoth

    carol | October 10, 2009

    Ice, Ice Baby: Perfectly Frozen Mammoth
    http://news.sky.com/skynews/Home/World-News/Frozen-Woolly-Mammoth-Lyuba-Heads-To-Chicago-For-Exhibit-In-Field-Museum/Article/200910115399522?f=rss

    “A baby woolly mammoth, frozen in soil for 40,000 years in Siberia, was so well preserved that traces of her mother’s milk were still in her stomach.”

    Attachment Parenting: Actress Mayim Bialik (Blossom)

    carol | August 30, 2009

    Mayim Bialik aka “Blossom”: Celebrity “poster mom” for attachment parenting
    http://www.examiner.com/x-17929-Denver-Attachment-Parenting–Examiner~y2009m8d28-Mayim-Bialik-aka-Blossom-Poster-mom-for-attachment-parenting

    “Mayim Bialik, star of the hit 90’s TV series “Blossom,” has talked openly about her “strange” parenting practices. While many celebrities give a nod to breastfeeding, Bialik has made a true commitment to the attachment parenting lifestyle. She says she has researched her approach to parenting and chosen what she believes is best for her family. And research is something Bialik, or I should say Dr. Bialik, knows something about. She has a PhD in neuroscience from UCLA.

    “So what is it that Dr. Bialik has decided is best for her family? She practices extended breastfeeding (she nursed her oldest son until he was 2), babywearing and elimination communication. She is a huge proponent of home birth and her second son was born at home. They all share a family bed. Though her oldest son is only 3.5, they are part of a homeschooling community and are considering that a viable option for later schooling.”

    ‘Spotlight to Nightlight’: Mayim Bialik: From Teen Icon to Unconventional Mom
    http://omg.yahoo.com/blogs/goddess/spotlight-to-nightlight-mayim-bialik-from-teen-icon-to-unconventional-mom/270?nc

    “There are so many interesting/somewhat controversial things that she is doing with her family: elimination communication, bed sharing, home schooling, home birth, and choosing not to vaccinate her kids.”

    Mayim Bialik: Blossom TV Show Actress to PhD in Neuroscience
    http://celebrity.rightpundits.com/?p=6562

    What I appreciated the most from learning about Dr. Mayim Bialik’s parenting choices is that she arrived at them through RESEARCH.

    In my experience, parenting decisions that have been influenced by RESEARCH, unwounded INTUITION, and CHRISTIANITY all arrive at the same place, ATTACHMENT PARENTING.

    http://parentingfreedom.com/attachment/

    Breastfeeding Doll

    carol | August 6, 2009

    Controversial Doll Lets Little Girls Pretend to Breast-Feed
    http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,537261,00.html

    “I think that it’s great that people want to have a doll that promotes breast-feeding,” said Rose Haluschak, also of El Paso. “Most dolls that are purchased come with a bottle. That is the norm in society, an artificial way to feed your baby.”

    I hate the bottles that come with ALL the other dolls. Little girls pretend to nurse their dollies anyway (given the example), and if someone wants to make some money, go for it. Looks like a soother is included though. Too bad. I would chose a doll without a bottle and a soother, that’s for sure.

    Edited to add video LOL:

    Demostración Bebé Glotón

    "Breast-feeding linked to high grades, college"

    carol | June 24, 2009

    Breast-feeding linked to high grades, college
    http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/31368856/ns/health-womens_health/

    “Breast-fed babies seem more likely to do well at high school and to go on to attend college than infants raised on a bottle…”

    An additional month of breast-feeding was associated with an increase in high school grade point averages of 0.019 points and an increase in the probability of college attendance of 0.014.”

    “‘The results of our study suggest that the cognitive and health benefits of breast-feeding may lead to important long-run educational benefits for children’”…

    Hat Tip: Shelley

    Parenting By Instinct

    carol | May 10, 2009

    Some of the best moms live at Zoo Atlanta!
    http://blogs.ajc.com/momania/2009/05/09/some-of-the-best-moms-live-at-zoo-atlanta/?cxntfid=blogs_momania

    “I’m sure they don’t know it, but many of the animals practice the Dr. Sears Attachment Parenting theory. All the mammals usually nurse their babies. Many “wear” their babies. And co-sleeping is all the rage…”