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    carol | March 13, 2010

    With my hands cupping my womb, I could feel the baby moving around last night! The date would be just past 16 weeks pregnancy/14 weeks after conception. So far, I can only feel movement with my hands. I can’t feel it in my body yet. When I wake up each morning, a big bump sticks up when I lie on my back, but during the rest of the day, it sort of hides. (To clarify, my stomach doesn’t hide - just the womb. LOL)

    I have my maternity clothes ready to go. I ordered some new things online. I hope they won’t make me look too hideous this time around. Fortunately, this was the first time I could buy tall maternity pants. What a relief!  I still wear my regular shirts, and I can comfortably button at least three pairs of my non-maternity pants, but that won’t last much longer. I recently got out my box of stored maternity clothes and made a ‘keep’ pile and a ‘give-away’ pile. It is funny how the pants style has changed so much in just six years – not only the legs, but the back pockets of jeans. I had a great laugh at myself when I tried on some of my old maternity mom-jeans. If you think regular mom-jeans are bad, you should have seen these! The scariest thing is that they are in the ‘keep’ pile until I have the energy to go shopping for a  couple more pairs in a nearby city. To my knowledge, there are ZERO places to buy maternity clothes locally. Sad, really. What do pregnant women do?

    We stopped at a furniture store last night to look at their rocker/recliners. The one I used for my last baby was a very old chair that came from my grandparents. Years ago, we dragged the matching one to the end of the road on Big Garbage Day after one of the kids threw up on it. Both chairs were worn out anyway. I didn’t find a new one that I liked, but we only went to one place. There is lots of time. Then again, it’s hard to believe that in only a few short weeks, I will be half-way through this pregnancy. Yikes!

    I have a new extra-tall bed rail ready for our king-size bed, and I bought new foam wedges for nursing in bed. These are two of my most needed baby items. My wish list also includes new slings, a wrap-around nursing pillow, a dresser for baby clothes, etc.

    My eight-year-old daughter is knitting a blanket for the new baby. At first, she chose pink yarn, but she was encouraged to get white in case it’s not a girl! I’ll take a boy and/or a girl, but she would LOVE to have a sister. After all, when we thought she was getting a girl kitten, it turned out to be a boy when we took her to get spayed. LOL

    This has been by far my most difficult pregnancy – both physically and emotionally.

    Emotionally: Pregnancy following miscarriage is extremely stressful. I never expected it to be so hard. I also have worries of my husband’s job insecurity and the threat of moving hanging over my head.

    Physically: I  am thankful that the 24-hour morning sickness began to slowly ease at 11 weeks, and the last couple weeks have been much better. It was a rough first trimester. In the fall, I was feeling quite well most of the time, but within just a couple weeks of the pregnancy, the Chronic Fatigue Syndrome that I have battled since I was sixteen years old kicked in big time. I didn’t expect to have such debilitating fatigue with this pregnancy. I am particularly grateful for two things in this regard:

    #1 I had the house renovations and house cleaning completely ready just days before I became pregnant. That makes me feel sooooooo much better, because even though I can’t keep up, and I am getting behind with the housekeeping, it is not as overwhelming as it would have been. I pray for strength to be able to cope if we have to move, and also for the basic nesting that I need to do.

    #2 As always, I am very thankful for our homeschooling method. It has been so flexible over the many years of ups and downs with my health. The three oldest children are capable of doing their schoolwork with minimum or even no help from me if necessary. I do not fret over my five-year-old because I know there is lots of time, and as long as he continues to learn a little phonics and math facts here and there, he will do just as well as his brothers and sister. There were many times I was physically unable to put much into homeschooling over the years, yet the children are doing great.

    I haven’t been very chatty on my blog lately because I am just too tired. I have mostly been posting links and quotes with the occasional commentary.

    One interesting change in my lifestyle has occurred after an appointment with another naturopath. I have searched for health answers since I was a teenager. I have tried many, many things – sometimes with good results, but most of the time, nothing helped. During the past few months, I have been desperate to find answers. I don’t know if this time will make the difference, but I am giving it my full effort, even if it kills me. So, with the goal of achieving better health, I have gone vegan! In the past, I was familiar with the vegetable juicing and vegetable smoothies and nut milk and all, but I have never completely eliminated meat/fish/eggs/dairy at the same time before (still using butter). I am also doing no-sugar again. It has been eighteen days, and I have seen no improvement, and unfortunately some negative effects. I will stick with it religiously for a while yet, and I hope to keep at least some of the new habits for the rest of my life. The children have been doing great as well. They are not eating vegan or even vegetarian, but their diets have improved greatly with a salad almost every day and no junk – yet. Over the years, we have gone through many times of eating healthy and eating poorly. I have always found it very discouraging when a strict healthy diet did nothing for my health. Hopefully, this time will be different.

    I haven’t been doing too much during the past few months except trying to cope. One helpful thing has been our amazing winter! I have never seen a winter with such little snow and such great weather. We are having another sunny day, and the forecast is amazing! I haven’t had the strength to enjoy being outside, but in many ways, the weather has been very encouraging.

    Hmmm… what else would you like to know? :-)

    “Unborn babies respond to their mother’s mood while she is watching a movie.”

    carol | March 12, 2010

    Why pregnant film fans should stick to happy movies
    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-1256990/Unborn-babies-respond-mothers-mood-watches-movie-scientists-say.html?ITO=1490

    “Scientists have discovered that unborn babies respond to their mother’s mood while she is watching a movie – and become quiet and still if the film is sad…”

    “Researchers have no idea how the babies pick up on their mothers’ emotions, but suspect that the rush of hormones triggered by an emotional film are transmitted indirectly to the foetus…”

    “A pregnant mother’s mood and stress levels can affect her unborn child…”

    “Past studies have shown that stressed mothers-to-be are at higher risk of stillbirth and premature birth.”

    “Babies born to stressed mothers are twice as likely to have lower-than-average IQs.”

    “They are also more likely to be hyperactive, suffer from emotional problems and refuse to do as they are told…”

    Baby Born at 25 Weeks

    carol | March 5, 2010

    Meet the world’s most premature baby boy: The incredible ‘Tom Thumb’, who at 25 weeks weighed less than a can of Coke
    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/worldnews/article-1255657/Meet-worlds-premature-baby-Doctors-release-image-incredible-infant-weighed-cup-coffee-birth.html#ixzz0hJ6V5k5L

    But you’re only supposed to have two children. Three, if you didn’t already get one of each kind.

    carol | March 2, 2010

    We usually tell about our pregnancies within the first six weeks. We were living in another city with Baby #1, so we told as soon as we could be in person with our families. With Baby #2, we told everyone on Christmas at 15 days after conception! With Baby #3, we waited until six weeks, so we could tell everyone on Christmas as well. Baby #4 was announced on Valentine’s Day. I told about Baby #5 at six weeks, but the miscarriage had already started. Mainly because of not wanting to worry the children, I waited until 3 months to tell about Baby #6. That was past the first trimester which is the highest miscarriage risk. This sixth pregnancy was announced on Valentine’s as well (technically the night before at a family Valentine’s party.) We told the children earlier that afternoon. They were thrilled. I was actually surprised at how excited they were. At the party, we told my parents, my brother and sister-in-law, two nephews, my maternal grandparents and aunt. Everyone seemed genuinely happy and congratulated us. Later, my paternal grandfather and other aunt happened to call, and they congratulated me as well. My sister was happy for me when we talked on the phone that night. After the party, we went to Derek’s parents and told them. Only his mother congratulated us. I did send personal Facebook messages to a handful of people I thought would care and they all replied positively. My website post brought some nice comments as well. The next afternoon, Derek’s brother called him to congratulate us. Nothing from his sister and brother-in-law. Only one person called me. Thanks, AS. Since then, NOBODY except my mother and grandmother has even mentioned anything to me about the pregnancy. The other night, Derek went to his aunt and uncle’s house (they had congratulated him), and a few of his cousins were there. When learning we were expecting, one did the typical, “Don’t you know what causes that?” and his cousin’s wife only said, “Nobody told me!” No congratulations from any of them. Derek’s work aquaintances are being just as negative. Derek described people as being downright “mean”.

    It’s funny that I see this as a small little family. (Derek took the picture.) Others see it as “too many children”, “too expensive”, “too much bother”, “better you than me!”


    Just after telling the children about the baby.

    Which of my children shouldn’t have been allowed to live? Obviously the one in the womb would be the first to go since nobody can see it or feel attached to it much (and of course, it’s legal to have her killed). So that leaves at least one more that should have been eliminated. (At least that’s what almost everyone seems to think.) Which one?

    “How can there be too many children? That is like saying there are too many flowers.”
    Mother Teresa

    “He took a little child and had him stand among them. Taking him in his arms, he said to them, ‘Whoever welcomes one of these little children in my name welcomes me; and whoever welcomes me does not welcome me but the one who sent me.’”
    Mark 9:36

    More medical fraud exposed ~ Saving that umbilical cord? “Well-meaning parents being fleeced by the stem cell bankers.”

    carol | February 21, 2010

    US scientists warn of fraud of stem cell ‘banks’
    http://www.breitbart.com/article.php?id=CNG.105438b304ce29f342ec5b5998c470f9.01&show_article=1

    “Clinics that offer to “bank” stem cells from the umbilical cords of newborns for use later in life when illness strikes are fraudsters, a top US scientist said.”

    “Clinics in many countries allow parents to deposit stem cells from their neonate’s umbilical cord with a view to using the cells to cure major illnesses that could occur later in life…”

    “Irving Weissman, director of the Institute of Stem Cell Biology and Regenerative Medicine at Stanford University in California, said the well-meaning parents were being fleeced by the stem cell bankers…”

    “Weissman said these ‘unproven stem cell therapeutic clinicians’ tend to set up shop in countries with poor medical regulations, but AFP found websites for umbilical cord stem cell banks in European Union member states and in the United States.”

    “‘They do the therapies, then they let the patients go on their own, short of maybe 50-150,000 dollars for a therapy that has no chance — taken away from a family that needs them when they have an incurable disease,’” Weissman said.”

    “‘It is wrong.’”

    “Mom’s diet may alter infant’s allergies”

    carol | February 20, 2010

    Mom’s diet may alter infant’s allergies
    http://www.reuters.com/article/idUSTRE61I47T20100219

    “Eating lots of vegetables and fruits during pregnancy may lower the chance of having a baby with certain allergies..”

    “Third Voice” Music Video

    carol | February 16, 2010

    Third Voice ~ Fresh Anointing

    Hat Tip: http://www.jillstanek.com/

    “Unborn” Music Video

    carol | February 15, 2010

    Caitlin Jane- Unborn

    Hat Tip: http://realchoice.blogspot.com/

    Baby #6

    carol | February 14, 2010

    A Different Child ~ Pandora Diane Waldron

    A different child,
    People notice
    There’s a special glow around you.

    You grow
    Surrounded by love,
    Never doubting you are wanted;
    Only look at the pride and joy
    In your mother and father’s eyes.

    And if sometimes
    Between the smiles
    There’s a trace of tears,
    One day
    You’ll understand.

    You’ll understand
    There was once another child
    A different child
    Who was in their hopes and dreams.

    That child will never outgrow the baby clothes
    That child will never keep them up at night
    In fact, that child will never be any trouble at all.

    Except sometimes, in a silent moment,
    When mother and father miss so much
    That different child.

    May hope and love wrap you warmly
    And may you learn the lesson forever
    How infinitely precious
    How infinitely fragile
    Is this life on earth.

    One day, as a young man or woman
    You may see another mother’s tears
    Another father’s silent grief
    Then you, and you alone
    Will understand
    And offer the greatest comfort.

    When all hope seems lost,
    You will tell them
    With great compassion,
    “I know how you feel.
    I’m only here
    Because my mother tried again.”

    for Madoka Marietta Rosalie, from your mother,
    Pandora Diane Waldron
    March 4, 1999.

    Remembering, with love, and not with sadness,
    our Special Angel, Rhiannon Roxane,
    who left this world 2 years ago today.

    (I’d probably change the last time to:
    Because the Lord blessed again.)

    In case you’re curious, I have had 24-hour nausea, debilitating fatigue, and extreme fear that this baby will die, too. Pregnancy following miscarriage is very difficult. I told my husband a week before Christmas and the children and family yesterday. I am three months along, so hopefully the risks of the first trimester have passed. Baby’s due date is August 25th.

    My baby’s feet look about like this right now:

    Pregnancy #4  http://unbornbabyjournal.com/
    Pregnancy #5  http://unbornbabyjournal.com/river.html
    I had a website all ready to record Pregnancy #6, but it’s been too difficult to write.

    Happy Valentine’s Day!

    “A Birth Story”

    carol | February 9, 2010

    Nella Cordelia: A Birth Story
    http://enjoyingthesmallthings.blogspot.com/2010/01/nella-cordelia-birth-story.html#

    Canadian Pro-Life Ad

    carol | January 18, 2010

    While watching TV on the weekend (specifically, To Kill a Mockingbird 1962), I was suprised to see this ad:

    http://www.veritaspictures.com/clients/PO/9063/VM-VAN-30C-3.mov

    http://www.allianceforlife.org/

    “Bacon and eggs could help pregnant women boost their baby’s intelligence”

    carol | January 16, 2010

    Bacon and eggs could help pregnant women boost their baby’s intelligence
    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1240932/Bacon-eggs-help-pregnant-women-boost-babys-intelligence.html?ITO=1490#ixzz0coHYDHul

    But She Can Get an Abortion

    carol | January 16, 2010

    Pregnant Woman Fights Court-Ordered Bed Rest
    ACLU Asks if Pregnant Women Can Be Penalized For Drinking, Speeding, Poor Eating
    http://abcnews.go.com/Health/florida-court-orders-pregnant-woman-bed-rest-medical/story?id=9561460&page=1

    Hat Tip: http://realchoice.blogspot.com/2010/01/heres-one-where-i-gotta-agree-with-aclu.html

    Before you “purge” your baby from your womb…

    carol | January 16, 2010

    New Law Requires Women To Name Baby, Paint Nursery Before Getting Abortion

    Impressive Birthing

    carol | December 31, 2009

    Christmas must go on! Wonder mother pops out to give birth and serves up turkey two hours later
    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1239595/Christmas-Wonder-mother-pops-birth-serves-turkey-hours-later.html#ixzz0bJV00BN3

    “‘I had prepared most of the dinner before I went into labour so everything was in the oven and ready to go before I left.’”

    “‘Everything went really well, Lexi was born and I was back to serve the meal an hour later. It was quite surreal.’”