Carol | June 25, 2011
Quebec’s daycare policy doesn’t lead to success: study
http://www.sunnewsnetwork.ca/sunnews/canada/archives/2011/05/20110511-120405.html
“There is a serious quality problem. I would go as far as to say that daycare quality is very low, both in terms of educators’ formation and in terms of the quality of interactions between educators and children.”
Carol | May 29, 2011
My children have had very few experiences with earaches or ear infections in their lifetimes. My 17-year-old has only had an earache 2-3 times ever. My 12-year-old had an earache once as a baby and once as an older child. My 9-year-old had 2-3 mild earaches two summers ago. My 6-year-old boy had one ear hurt for approximately two hours last year, and my 8 1/2-month-old girl has never had an ear infection. The grand total of earaches among my five children throughout their lives is 7-9.
Earaches or ear infections occur when a person experiences a conflict about wanting to hear something, but can’t, OR when the person does not want to hear something. For example, two summers ago, the weather was rather unpredictable, so we spent much time one morning debating over whether or not we would be able to go on a river float. My 9-year-old daughter loves such activities and wanted to go badly. We kept changing our minds. When we finally announced that we definitely were going to go, my 12-year-old son, familiar with German New Medicine, predicted that his sister would get an ear ache. Sure enough, as we were floating down the beautiful river, my daughter’s ear began to hurt and throb. That was the healing phase of her hearing (sound-morsel) conflict. She wanted to hear something, and when it finally came true, she began to heal. That’s when the pain begins. We knew it wouldn’t last because her conflict active time was short, but it still hurts in the mean time! The same thing happened the next time we hummed and hawed over going on another river float the following week! (We treat earaches with garlic, but get your own medical consultation.)
I often hear parents talk about their babies having ear infections. Oftentimes during infancy, it is because the parents let their baby cry-it-out. When baby wants to hear his mother come to rescue him, but she doesn’t, and then when she finally does come, he may develop an ear infection or ear ache. That is a predictable and preventable health problem. If you want to help prevent ear infections, respond to your baby’s cries. Read more about crying-it-out here.
“The middle ear relates to hearing conflicts (the “sound-morsel”). The conflict of “not being able to catch a sound morsel”, for example not hearing Mommy’s voice, affects the right ear, whereas the conflict of “not being able to get rid of a sound morsel”, for instant loud annoying noise, affects the left ear. An intense conflict-activity results in a middle ear “infection” during the healing phase.” (Source: German New Medicine) NOTE: I understand the right/left ear makes if a difference if you are right or left-handed. Also, I understand some conflicts affect both ears regardless.
A similiar situation would occur if a child is at daycare and needs to hear his or her mother’s voice or doesn’t want to hear the daycare provider’s voice.
I have studied German New Medicine independently for the past four years, and I took a full four-day seminar last summer. I am NOT an expert, and I will NOT answer health questions, but I encourage you to research this material yourself. I find it incredible, and it applies so accurately to the health concerns I face with a family of seven.
I highly recommend the booklet:
The Strong family and their medical adventures: Lisa has a middle ear infection Volume 2
And the following two websites:
http://newmedicine.ca/
http://www.germannewmedicine.ca/home.html
When your child becomes sick, determine the conflict that the child faced right before he or she fell ill. I have been on Facebook since 2007, and I have been able to predict with great accuracy who is going to get sick, and what they will get. I will tell my husband that so-and-so is going to get a cold, etc. and sure enough, she does. I have seen this with colds and flus, pink eye, sore throats, eczema, and of course ear infections, etc. Things that stand out where a child is bound to get sick is when they start daycare, or when their mother works full-time and then takes time off to be home with the child. I have seen both mother and child develop pink eye because they are so happy to see each other during a vacation. I read about a baby’s recurring earaches, and suspect the mother lets him cry-it-out. Sure enough, that ends up being the case. Also, school causes a lot of stress conflicts and belly-aches for children. I have seen lots of university students get colds or flus right after exams. Conflicts in your life can make you sick. Learn how to prevent conflicts and resolve inevitable conflicts quickly.
Edited to add: Hearing conflicts aren’t the only cause of health problems related to crying-it-out. It’s how the child perceives the situation. It could also be a visual conflict, or a separation conflict (resulting in skin issues), or an abandonment conflict, etc.
Edited a mistake: Even though he didn’t remember, I am sure that my six-year-old’s ear did hurt for a couple hours last year.
Carol | March 27, 2011
Baby’s growing up… and taking a shine to politics: The MEP who brings her daughter to Parliament
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1364414/Baby-s-growing-getting-interested-politics.html#ixzz1Hq0B2ycf
“‘It was not a political gesture. It was first of all a maternal gesture – that I wanted to stay with my daughter as much as possible, and to remind people that there are women who do not have this opportunity [to bring their children to work], that we should do something to talk about this.’”
Carol | February 22, 2011
I believe the true test of teachers is how well their below average, struggling children improve under their tutelage. As I see it, for the average or above average child, a teacher (and the public school system) is a handicap. After attending school for twelve years and homeschooling for thirteen years, I am convinced public schools are nothing but a babysitting service. It is true that some families truly need the free babysitting, but surely we can’t pretend that the public schools provide optimal educational services.
I find it amusing when parents are pressured to be more involved and to help with homework, etc. (Why do they hire the teachers?!) If the parents only knew that homeschooling (on the parents’ part) need not take much more time than that. Without away-school, their children will also have more time to “just be children” and grow and play and learn.
When I meet a child who “failed” a grade, I tell him, “You didn’t fail. Your teacher failed.” (I have told that to several children, and you should see the look of relief in their eyes.) Maybe it’s not the children suffering from learning disabilities. Who’s testing for teaching disabilities?
Of course, the system is more to blame. Teachers may be nice, sweet, kind, caring, hardworking, and dedicated, but the system simply isn’t set up to support them. Forcing 15-20 children to be at the relatively same level every day using the same cookie-cutter curriculum will not work for every child. Why should ANY child fall through the cracks?
Sounds like those striking teachers in Wisconsin have been doing a great job. *sarcasm*
State’s black fourth-graders post worst reading scores in U.S.
http://www.jsonline.com/news/education/89007417.html
“Reading scores for Wisconsin’s African-American fourth-graders trail those of their racial peers in every other state…”
“Wisconsin’s eighth-graders matched their highest score of the last decade. Even so, only 34% of Wisconsin’s eighth-graders were considered proficient in reading.”
34% of eighth-graders proficient in reading?? And that’s good??
The above article was encouraging when it mentioned the Montessori schools and their phonetics-based reading programs, etc.
Low test scores worry districts
http://www.jsonline.com/news/education/100953394.html
“The Class of 2010 posted Wisconsin’s lowest score since 1996…”
Carol | February 20, 2011
Children of working mums ‘more likely to be ill’
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1357389/Children-working-mums-likely-ill.html#ixzz1EXuRR8xL
“The children of working mothers are up to three times more likely to be ill…”
I notice this among my Facebook friends. I can hardly believe how often their children are sick. Once again, it is related to the child facing more conflicts… more stress, less attachment, less permanent conflict resolution… (Note: if it is something as simple as a cold, remember that colds that are related to the nose – stuffy, runny, etc., are the healing phase of a “stink” conflict or a “fed up” conflict. “That stinks.” If it is ongoing, then it is likely hanging healing and the conflict is not getting completely resolved.)
http://www.screencast.com/users/GNM/folders/GNM%20Videos/media/19ff3380-c040-45aa-962b-6e701efd56d6
More from the Dailymail article:
“Those whose mothers worked were more likely to have spent time in hospital, to have been diagnosed with asthma and to have suffered bone breaks and poisonings.
“Lack of supervision is thought to be one of the reasons.”
“It was possible working mothers felt guilty at leaving their children during the day and were more likely to seek medical help for relatively trivial problems.”
And a quote by John and Sheila Kippley,
“No one ever feels guilty about doing what he or she truly believes to be right. Nor will anyone feel guilty about mother-child separation if it is absolutely needed for family survival.”
Carol | February 20, 2011
How Couples Recover After an Argument Stems from Their Infant Relationships
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/02/110218142453.htm
“Couples’ abilities to bounce back from conflict may depend on what both partners were like as infants…”
“By looking back at observations of the participants and their caregivers from the 1970s, when they were between 12 and 18 months old, the researchers discovered a link between the couples’ conflict recovery behaviors and the quality of their attachment relationship with their caregivers. People who were more securely attached to their caregivers as infants were better at recovering from conflict 20 years later. This means that if your caregiver is better at regulating your negative emotions as an infant, you tend to do a better job of regulating your own negative emotions in the moments following a conflict as an adult.”
“The researchers also found that there is hope for people who were insecurely attached as infants. ‘We found that people who were insecurely attached as infants but whose adult romantic partners recover well from conflict are likely to stay together,’ remarked Salvatore. ‘If one person can lead this process of recovering from conflict, it may buffer the other person and the relationship.’ The health of a relationship can be salvaged if one person can quickly disengage from conflict and avoid dwelling on negative thoughts and emotions…”
How Couples Recover After an Argument Stems From Their Infant Relationships
http://www.psychologicalscience.org/index.php/news/releases/how-couples-recover-after-an-argument-stems-from-their-infant-relationships.html
Carol | February 15, 2011
Killing the soul of children
http://www.itakejoy.com/killing-the-soul-of-children/
“Research of every kind has suggested that media, constantly being indoors, over-entertainment, trying to manage children into little adults, too much exposure to sexual material and immoral values at an early age, is destroying the soul of children…”
“Children need lots of time to have alone time imagination–to synthesize all that they are learning and thinking about in their worlds…”
Carol | February 14, 2011
I try not to post BAD parenting advice, but I couldn’t resist pointing out this nonsense by Michelle Obama.
Michelle Obama’s ‘Cute Parenting Tip’ — Lie and Trick Your Kids So They Are Not Fat
http://www.theblaze.com/stories/michelle-obamas-cute-parenting-tip-lie-and-trick-your-kids-so-they-are-not-fat/
Michelle Obama’s “Cute Parenting Tip” Lie and Trick Your Kids So They Are Not Fat
“Really cute tips for parents… 33000 media outlets… The mom makes the kid go up and down stairs several times looking for her purse which she knows where it is… We have to be creative as parents particularly in the African American communities where we don’t have sports leagues, where it’s not safe to play outside… We as parents have to get creative.” Michelle Obama
Comment from my 9yod, “That is mean! That’s stupid.”
Michelle, how about taking your child’s hand and running up and down the stairs with her!! And be honest about the purpose!!
And Michelle, childhood obesity will not be fixed by only diet and exercise. It is caused by rejection, abandonment, refugee/hospital conflicts, etc. Daycare, fatherless homes, mothers working, and many other things can cause conflicts related to childhood obesity.
Carol | February 6, 2011
Dads can keep the peace… by leaving childcare to mum
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1351238/Dads-peace–leaving-childcare-mum.html#ixzz1DCRGe7Ob
“Couples have a stronger relationship when the father spends more time playing with their child. But when he participates in care-giving – such as giving baths – parents undermine each other.”
I don’t know if that would be the case because I think most mothers would be thankful for any help.
On a related issue, controlling fathers is one area that disturbs me. I can’t tell you how many times I have witnessed the distress of women whose husbands lay down the law about parenting issues. It seems to happen without ANY research into the topic. They also don’t appear to have any spirituality behind their decisions either. Completely ignorant decisions are made by these men while they are exercising their power of control.
Women tell me that their husbands say, “No, you can’t homeschool.” “No, you can’t breastfeed past one.” “No, the baby can’t sleep with us.” “No, we must spank the children.” “No, the baby stays with a sitter.” “No, you have to work.” “No, this is my money, and that is your money.” “No, we are DEFINITELY vaccinating.” “No, let her cry.”
I have heard these things so often from mothers. It is so sad and so wrong. I can only beg the young women to muster the strength and courage BEFORE engagement. BEFORE children. It starts with not giving their bodies away for free (without a wedding band of commitment).
Carol | February 6, 2011
http://www.cbc.ca/politics/insidepolitics/2011/02/question-of-the-day-284.html
“In Question Period on Thursday, Minister of Human Resources & Social Development Diane Finley said, ‘It’s the Liberals who wanted to ensure that parents are forced to have other people raise their children. We do not believe in that.‘”
Children’s BMI Found to Rise the Longer Their Mothers Work
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/02/110204091250.htm
“Children’s BMI rose the more years their mothers worked over their children’s lifetimes.”
“Surprisingly, changes in children’s physical activity, time spent unsupervised, and time spent watching TV didn’t explain the link between maternal employment and children’s BMI.”
“The total number of years mothers were employed had a small but cumulative influence on their children’s BMI, which, over time, can lead to an increase in the likelihood of overweight or obesity.”
